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Mum called boyfriend ugly

23 replies

phute · 30/06/2019 18:24

AIBU here?

Simple story, DM and I were out in a social setting. She'd messaged me pestering and wanted me to come 'rescue her' because some guy was talking to her.
I found her, 'rescued' her, and she'd then started telling me it's someone she actually really liked (although he's married) and how much she fancied him when she'd worked with him somewhere. I'd just made a comment that I thought she didn't know him because she wanted to be 'rescued' and thought that suited because my first though is 'as if she's sat with that ugly guy!'
(I was probably being U to make a nasty comment, I'm aware of that, but it was more light-hearted about the situation that I'd had to trek round to find her and 'save' her.
And she's recently met my boyfriend (getting serious), and her next comment was, 'that's exactly what I thought about your boyfriend'. I said 'hey!' and she'd said 'don't take the mick about people I fancy and I won't have to be honest then'.
I get what I said was unreasonable but still... it's hardly the same as outright saying that about the person I'm in a relationship with in a really honest way as me saying it about some married guy she asked me to 'save' her from but allegedly fancied at some point.
Maybe I shouldn't care?

OP posts:
TidyDancer · 30/06/2019 18:28

Tbh I think you should as bad as each other! You shouldn't have made a comment on physical appearance if you weren't prepared for your mum to make one back.

TidyDancer · 30/06/2019 18:28

should = sound

DoneLikeAKipper · 30/06/2019 18:28

I mean, you both sound so bloody immature I’m not sure where to even start here. Chasing married men and calling each other’s love interest ‘ugly’, honestly you both sound about 15.

WombatStewForTea · 30/06/2019 18:29

Yabu. No different to what you said. Think your mum handled it brilliantly Grin

MyOpinionIsValid · 30/06/2019 18:29

I cant follow all that . Sorry. Two aesthetically challenged blokes, one is married, your mother needs rescuing coz she fancies him, and you're dating the other one. Not sure what the question is.

KateWrong · 30/06/2019 18:29

YABU. It was unkind of you both.

PositiveVibez · 30/06/2019 18:32

You both sound ridiculous 😂

phute · 30/06/2019 18:32

Yeah- maybe I'll just take it as a lesson not to say anything like that rather than being offended!!!

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HundredMilesAnHour · 30/06/2019 18:33

You both sound like children. But you also have massive double standards if you think it's acceptable for you to call someone ugly then get upset when your own boyfriend is called ugly. I think the ugliness is in your behaviour here. Try growing up.

DamnShesaSexyChick · 30/06/2019 18:34

It's sounds like you've both had a few op

AlwaysSkint · 30/06/2019 18:51

@DamnShesaSexyChick Grin

I'm inclined to agree, it is rather juvenile.

WalnutCabinet · 30/06/2019 18:53

Was the social setting soft play?

TakenForSlanted · 30/06/2019 18:58

Why can't I ever have ridiculous fights like that with my mum? Sounds a lot more fun than arguing over the builders' quote (I own half her house).

Confused
RelaisBlu · 30/06/2019 19:26

Was the social setting soft play? Grin

Booboosweet · 30/06/2019 19:30

I would be absolutely cringing at my mum telling me she fancies a married man.

SagAloojah · 30/06/2019 19:33

YABU. Well done to your mum for putting in you in your place. You were nasty OP.

OddHoleySocks · 30/06/2019 19:36

Ha, I think your mum gave the perfect response.

You can hardly criticise her when you made the comment first!

ThatIsNotAGoodLook · 30/06/2019 19:36

😂😂😂😂😂🤣

Sparklesocks · 30/06/2019 19:47

You both sound quite immature!
As a general rule, don’t make comments about the partners/prospects of those you love - it never ends well!

NCforthis2019 · 30/06/2019 19:50

WTH - are you both 16?! Both as bad as each other, and as for calling someone ‘ugly’ - you both a couple of stunners are you? How shallow.

Happysummer2020 · 30/06/2019 19:53

I just can't imagine having that sort of exchange with my mother. Do you go drinking together?

llangennith · 30/06/2019 19:57

You're clearly your mother's daughterConfused

15YemenRoad · 30/06/2019 20:22

I think your mum handled this perfectly well, and it served you right for being nasty in the first place.

Perhaps you need to change the title of this thread?

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