Aibu To feel upset at the lack of empathy or support

[Moofreemum1]

I had a ds3 and been a single parent since he was 6 months. I went into a homeless place as my mum wouldn't put me up and I had no where else to go. Her words were "you wouldn't ever get a place if you came to live back here" just felt she didn't want to me there. Anyway now I'm ill and struggling badly. Luckily my DS dad said he would have him last night and swapped a night around to give me a rest. I stayed at my parents on my own as I didn't want to be alone last night. My DS got dropped off there and I felt like they wanted us to go. They didn't often to help me and couldn't see I was struggling.
Haven't heard from either parent all day apart from my dad just now sent a text about their house. Didn't ask how I was.

AIBU to upset that they don't give me much support or help?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are absolutely definitely not being unreasonable

Thank you, sorry about the typos. Typed quickly trying to occupy a toddler!

Your mum was more than likely right about housing.

When you say sick, do you mean like the flu?

Your mum was right about the housing situation (if you were applying for council property).

How ill are you? I wouldn’t expect to ever stay at my parents house as an adult unless invited or I was seriously ill.

I rang 111 last night because I was struggling with my asthma badly

Where are the other children?

I have 1 DS who is 3

How old are you OP?

She's right that you won't be assisted with housing if you go back there, because you won't be seen as homeless, so it could take 5+ years.

Where did you live before you had the baby? Can you rent somewhere?

They were being a bit harsh about housing but I do see their point and in the long run it would have worked out for the best.

As for the illness, some people just don't notice if you don't tell them. If you are genuinely struggling, you need to ask them for help. I know my mum wouldn't offer unless I asked because she herself just powered through when ill and expects that I'm the same.

Your dad was BU not asking how you were doing if he knew you phoned 111 last night.

I don’t blame you about wanting to be kept an eye on when your asthma is bad, do you think your parents aren’t aware how serious it can be?

You’re not lucky that his dad had him overnight though, it’s his responsibility to jump in and take over care when you can’t.

Hope you feel better soon

I left living with ex as he had been cheating on me and not treating me very nice really. I tried looking private renting but as I was on Mat leave no one would take me. I rang my mum last night as I felt really ill, I just said I'm going to stay as I don't want to be alone. She knows how ill I am as she said I used to get like this when I was little. There are numerous occasions where they have not thought about my feelings and only themselves

Sorry - I read DS3 as number 3! people use it either way, either age or number , oops.

Are you still in a hostel?

Sorry but I don’t think they’ve done anything wrong!

No sorry I was in a hostel 2 years ago now I was there when DS was 6 months old.