Feeling sorry for myself

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Please, tell me your advice for quitting feeling sorry for yourself?

I have some pretty hard things to deal with that feel very unfair, but I realise I also have things I feel lucky about.

Today, not so much. I can feel my thoughts circulating on what I don't have, can't have, and won't have. Everything feels wrong and hard.

I know we all have bad days but I'm desperately trying not to go back to bed in a depressed fog and wallow in self pity.

What do you do to pick yourself up?

I often feel like this and I don't have the answer.

Don't beat yourself up about feeling sorry for yourself. It's allowed. If it's more than that see your GP.

How about putting on some music or going for a walk or a drive? Even having a shower and getting dressed can be a good start.

I find getting out the house helps; even if it’s just a walk or to get a coffee. It’s the thing of getting dressed and getting out distracts me. It doesn’t entirely solve it but for me it helps.

I've succumbed to bed.

But, have the laptop with me and just bought one of those cheapie Groupon short online courses and now 'enrolled' so I'll at least try and be productive and learn something while in bed. That's something?

Start a list of things you're grateful for or happy about. Try to add one thing every day and read it back when you feel down.

It's so easy to dwell on the crap stuff and not realise what you actually have.

I tend to start minimising all the good things. I need to change my thinking!

It sounds knobbish but I have a gratitude diary that I write every evening. Some days I literally just write Ds or nice crisps or something in it, other days I write loads. It just helps me shift my mindset when I do it for a while. I also listen to law of attraction hypnosis things - they tell you how awesome you are and how awesome everthing is in an incredibly over the top way, but it helps! Read you are a badass!

Force yourself to have a routine, even if you don't want it - even write a list of things to follow if that helps you through the day.

Get up, shower, get into some comfy clothes, can shake off the blues.

If you want to do your online course, sit at a table and give yourself 1 hour at a time, then allow a break in between for a snack and go out for a walk, fresh air is amazing to clear your head.

"Feeling sorry for yourself" is one of those things to remove from your thoughts, by not allowing yourself to dwell on anything too much. Mindfulness can be helpful, it's useful for some (not everyone) to stay in the moment and not stew on things. CBT is another good technique to try thinking about the same thing, but from a different perspective. That can stop you from being to introverted, and think outwards.

I am prone to this, I'm on anti depressants and waiting for counselling but in the meantime I find getting on with something productive, anything, even something small helps. I have goals to improve my situation but find I have to keep them small and achievable.