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To consider smashing his Xbox?

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Squirrelthingsaway · 30/06/2019 00:18

Just kidding, he loves that thing, but seriously - help!!

My partner is obsessed with his Xbox. So much that he doesn’t even seem to acknowledge that I’m talking to him while he’s on it. He lost his favourite game the other day and literally cried as if it was the end of the world.

He only wants to spend time with me if he gets sex as a result!

He plays that Xbox whenever he gets the chance for hours!

We used to have a happy relationship. I don’t want to leave him.

Can someone help?

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Pinkfinkle · 30/06/2019 14:22

He only wants to spend time with me if he gets sex as a result!
Hmm biggest red flag right there, WTF!

Is he a teenager?

Ninkaninus · 30/06/2019 14:26

You don’t want to leave him??

That’s who he is, and no, we can’t help.

Sicario · 30/06/2019 14:28

Your PARTNER? Jeez. I thought you were describing a child.

celtic67 · 01/07/2019 01:08

"He only wants to spend time with me if he gets sex as a result!"

Yes. That's the exact basis of the boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife relationship.

You think he's with you because you're fun to be around? Spoiler alert: if a man thinks you're fun to be around he's gay.

You're like an employer complaining about having to pay their staff for doing their job.

Iris27 · 01/07/2019 05:50

Wow.

Guadalquivir19 · 01/07/2019 05:57

Please don't procreate with this specimen.

ChocChocButtons · 01/07/2019 06:38

How would you like help? I love my Xbox but I limit myself to an hour. Sometimes more of my jobs are done and I’ve know here to be.

Your husband is a grown man and he’s choosing To play games with his time their isn’t much else you can do.

AnonymousP · 01/07/2019 06:53

I would be giving him an ultimatum and meaning it. Have you had a serious talk about this before?

willowmelangell · 01/07/2019 07:11

Are you living together? I hope not. It's clear you don't want to carry on being friends with benefits.
Talking hasn't worked. I think there is only one thing left, stop enabling him. Don't cook for him, no laundry, and absolutely no food shopping.
Can you stay with someone or go on holiday for two weeks?
This all sounds very sad. Good luck. x

Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 01/07/2019 07:13

He lost his favourite game the other day and literally cried as if it was the end of the world.

This is shocking and not normal. I would assume at least low level addiction
I would issue an ultimatum and unless I saw a 180 improvement I would walk.

Also do not have sex without contraception a child with this man child is the last thing you need

whitebowls · 01/07/2019 09:01

I took my DH's Xbox and games and gave them away. He wasn't home when I did it.
It was his first (and last) gaming machine. Lasted 2 months in our house. It started obsessing him. He was telling me he couldn't go out till he'd finished a game. He kept disappearing and I'd find him playing games, even when we had visitors.
We'd been married 20 years at the time.
He was not happy with me, but I didn't care. Our marriage and life was much more important.
I'm not remotely controlling and DH is welcome to do whatever he chooses with his life.....except gaming as he's unable to not be obsessed and totally immersed. And I found it made him verbally aggressive as he was playing violence games.
2 months of gaming was enough for me to see it was too intrusive in our lives.
DH did actually agree with me.

Ocicat · 01/07/2019 09:23

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at celtic67’s comment.

KeepFuckingOff · 01/07/2019 09:27

You don’t want to leave him? Yes being a hole for someone to fuck sounds amazing so I can see why.

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