To feel incredibly lonely when I'm not really alone?

[LonesomeStar]

I'm 30. I have a husband (39) and three children (3,6,12). I have a mum and dad who are still quite young. But I feel so lonely

Yesterday my mum moved out of my childhood home and it hit me like a tonne of bricks. I've always kind of seen it as my safe place, if that makes sense? So that was a bit tough.

My Dad is best mates with my brother (27). They get along like a house on fire but he never really takes any interest in me. I try really hard to improve our relationship but he doesn't seem to bother.

My DH is one of those men who likes the idea of living as a single married person - i.e spending hours and hours alone and busying themselves when time could be spent as a family. He did it again today. He spent a whole afternoon upstairs on his XBox whilst I entertained the kids. He's the same once they go to bed - he'll anchor after some sex and then if he doesn't get it he'll either play on a game or watch YouTube videos.

My kids, bless them, they are fab but obviously they want to do their own thing and I can't talk to them about adult stuff!

This just probably sounds so moany but I feel really sad.

Xbox needs to go. End of.

I would feel sad and lonely too with a DH like that. Have you had a chat about how you feel with him?

You need a new husband!

.... New husband needed...

Your marriage sounds dismal. Sorry OP.

Your feelings about your childhood home are natural but they’ll pass.

It’s your husband that’s the big problem here. No wonder you’re lonely.

I've started to have the same thoughts myself, which makes me feel very guilty. I just want him to spend some time with me. We used to sit and watch stuff together in the evenings and we'd even play on his consoles together but he just seems to want to please himself these days.