To think I didn't realise how shit being a single mum is?

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Not that I would change being a single mum as exDP is a dick.

But Christ, I am on my knees here. Not ever having a seconds break, never having some headspace

Doesn't help that my DS has potential autism/ADHD. I would never change him but do any other single parents just feel like they aren't up to the job?

AIBU just to whinge?

YADNBU. She is 21 now so I have survived

Single mum here, ex died when DD was 4 and I worked ft. I didn't have any family near by other than my brother but he worked ft so wasn't in a position to help practically, although he was a shoulder to cry on.

DD has a disability, never felt more shit in my life when she was admitted to hospital as a teenager and she only had me to visit her because her friends had exams

DD was a pretty good kid / teen so I was lucky in that regard but it was still tough, having to juggle everything on your own. I was also lucky that I had school very helpful and understanding school mums who could take DD to activities after school and looking after her in an emergency. Still grateful after all these years.

It was the financial burden, constantly being skint, pay day to pay day, trying to pay the mortgage, few luxuries, no fancy holidays. Ex MIL was pretty generous to DD over the years but compared to other kids she still missed out on a lot.

Not everyone wants to be the sole decision maker though, I hate how everything falls on me, I hate not having someone to consult or tell me that I’m doing the right thing.