How do people do it

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Name changed.

Basically.. I’m going through a break up. I was with the guy for a year. It started as a FWB exclusive thing but become much more.

And to be frank I’m pretty upset by it. He ended it Thursday.

I keep crying on and off all day since I found out.

I’m doing all the things you should. Gym, talking to friends. I haven’t really eaten since Thursday as I just feel sick all the time.

I didn’t realise how much I felt for him until this happened.

When we meet we both knew each other had kids (2 each). He’s basically decided after a year that he doesn’t want to be with someone long term that has kids as he would resent having to raise someone else’s kids when he can’t look after his own. He said he probably always thought it would be ok but now it’s not and it’s not something he wants.

I’m pretty upset considering he knew I had kids.

What I want to know is how do people do this over and over again? I see it all the time that people are in relationships for a year or 2/3/4 etc and then the split up. How can anyone go through this kind of heart break over and over ?

I left the father of my kids as we fell out of love so there was no heart break here.

Also any tips to make me feel better ? I’m trying to keep busy. Go to the gym. Iv cried more in a few days then I have in years to be honest as I’m not a crier. Iv told him I hate him and none of it’s made me feel back to Normal.

I just want to feel normal again now and il do anything to get there as quick as possible.

Help :(

Yes, but it was worth the risk. I did think it would be better to wait before starting a new relationship, but then I didn't want to miss the boat with him. If he'd met someone else by the time I was ready I would have been gutted.

Just think you had a lucky escape. He sounds really awful, can’t look after his own DC? He really has done you a favour
I was also dumped 9 months in because of my kids and I was raging about it, but then I realise it was all for the best it would have been very hard work and unfair on my kids

DH and I have 2 kids each. Mine 100% and his 50% and he loves kids, even my very annoying teens. BUT it is incredibly hard being a united family. Almost every day. Occasionally we have a good day.

@Ginger1982 - he doesn’t have social media at all, never has so I literally cannot stalk him which is a massive bonus. My Facebook is secure as can be as wel so he won’t be able to see anything of mine either.

@OwlinaTree - I’m glad it’s worked out for you.

I know deep down he’s done the right thing for all of us eventually. I know he’s not the only bloke alive and that I’m 6 months time il just remember him instead of having this ache in my chest.

I have told him I won’t be his friend though like he wants.