To think that people in general are becoming more selfish?

[jennymanara]

I just see this every day in lots of little interactions.

Yup and a lot of it shows from the posts I see on here everyday (not yours today obviously 🤣!)

Seems like everyone wants instant gratification - want want want now now now me me me. People have completely unrealistic expectations of real life - don't want to work at anything and expect things handed to them

Yep - life is stressful enough without neighbours several doors away cranking up the bass and treating the rest of us to their 60's disco at 9am until around 5pm every Saturday. When you can feel the vibrations through the floor from that distance, you know there is no point in going to try and reason with them.

I am tempted by the purchase of an air horn which may or may not be directed through their bloody letterbox at approx 3am on Sunday mornings, to show my appreciation.

Yes, massive lack of consideration of others.

To be fair I don't see how you could make a comparison without a time machine

Yes. I honestly don't like how much society has changed. I blame social media and mobile phones. We also have become a society of reality tv and people just want to become famous and not work hard for anything anymore.

No, I think that most people are inherently kind. But there are none of us perfect and we all have our selfish moments I guess

Yep. Even trying to get off a bus the other day whilst others are trying to get on.
And so rude. Bad mannered.

I am tempted by the purchase of an air horn which may or may not be directed through their bloody letterbox at approx 3am on Sunday mornings, to show my appreciation.

@snuggybuggy I have noticed just in the last 5 years.
An example, I live somewhere very middle class. Today I was driving family to a large park. We stopped at the traffic lights. The car in front had its window down and the drover was talking to a very well dressed woman through the window. Then the lights changed to green and she stayed talking until the lights went red again. They did not care that that meant we were stuck there until the lights changed to green again.
Things like this happen all the time where I live now, and it did not happen in the fairly recent past. And I mention them being well dressed because if it did happen anywhere I was it would be lads who looked scary, not well dressed young middle class women.

That happens often where we live. I don't understand people who need to have conversations like that and it's never them asking anything in an emergency, just socialising. I wish social media would be banned so people would stop being selfish arseholes because they all think they're something they are not now.

I think it's fair to say we are more insular and depend on others less.

As for the bus example, 10 years ago assuming you were reasonably able bodied you rang the bell then got up and stood by the front so you could get off as soon as the doors opened. Now you get wimpy people waiting until the bus has stopped before standing and don't tell me that they all have hidden disabilities . If anything it seems to be elderly people who are still getting up to stand.

It's everywhere. Me me me. No empathy for anyone. See what I've got.. it's been like it the last twenty years or so and getting worse.

"wimpy people"... or people who have experience of bus drivers stopping suddenly and flying down the bus ending in a heap in agony? I wait.

YANBU

YANBU OP and it's unpleasant. No one gives a flying fuck about anyone any more unless they're caught looking like they're trying to avoid helping or they can do it and then make a big deal about it about how wonderful they are on facebook.

flying down the bus ending in a heap in agony
Has this actually happened to you where you have ended up on the floor of the bus and been injured?

I agree in the main.

Was on the double decker with my 4 yr old a couple of days ago. Bus stopped at some lights so we went down stairs whilst it was stopped so we weren’t racing down at our stop. Buses are really jerky here & won’t wait for you to go downstairs & get off.
My Ds loves the bus but is quite unsteady on the stairs. Man stood right in front of the stairs. All he had to do was step slightly & we could have got off the stairs before it started moving again. I managed to squeeze behind him, holding onto Ds’s hand. He then leant his entire body against the stairs basically blocking my four year old in. I have no idea why. We were trying to go behind him not in front of him. He just thought we shouldn’t get off the stairs clearly. My 4 yr old has SEN & was shouting for me. He didn’t move. We wouldn’t have inconvenienced him. Half a step to the left, that’s all we needed him to do. I’d always move out of someone’s way if I was able to.

Then he made a passive aggressive comment about us being in a rush. I wish I’d said more than I did at that point. I feel better now I’ve said it somewhere.

There are some kind people out there that would put themselves out for you, but overall I think there’s more selfish people.

I must admit I've had lots of experience of bus mishaps to be wary of getting off the thing, but I do try to make it to the front as soon as poss ( and say thanks to the driver)
Manners are also lacking everywhere.
Please and thanks cost nothing.

Well people managed to hold on to the bus rails OK 10 years ago.

& yes, my son has been injured when the bus has stopped suddenly. More than once. So if I can avoid him getting knocked or stumbling into another passenger, I will do.

I think people have always been selfish but, you see it a lot more on social media.

Yet, when people are kind they get accused of doing for the likes. So can't win.

@winchestermom that is awful. Also with buses yes young children are vulnerable to falling over, what was being talked about though was adults.

Depends where you live? Definitely yes in the county we used to live in and where my mum lives - definitely not where we live.

No, they aren’t. Now most people are able to feed and clothe their families (not always true throughout history) they are able to think more about the group/world. That is why their is more focus on eg the environment in rich countries than in poor ones.

I think it varies from place to place. I was cannoned into by a guy in London last week. Bashed into my shoulder so hard he spun me round on the pavement. That could happen in Manchester, Newcastle or Glasgow but they'd generally stop to check you were OK in my experience .. and apologise. London can be really bad.

France is so different, particularly in the rural areas. People have exquisite manners. When you go into a boulangerie you say good morning to the person serving you and anyone else who happens to be there. You say hello to whoever you pass in the village street. People take time to be pleasant to one another.

And the most polite place I've been was Boston. Huge teenage boys holding doors open and saying thank you if you did the same for them.

Small things but they make everyday life much nicer.