Last year I was silly enough to let my son have a sleepover with 8 friends for his birthday. We set up tents in the garden and had a bbq. The kids were all around 9/10. They had a blast but were incredibly badly behaved. They refused to sleep, were very loud and stayed up until at least 3am. I eventually threatened to call their parents and had to sit outside with them until they fell asleep. I finally got to bed at around 4am.
We left the back door unlocked so they had access to the house if they wanted to come inside. I woke up at around 8am. They were all in the living room watching TV. I made breakfast and their parents collected them at around 9am.
Later that night I received a text from one of the mums and she was furious, apparently I had allowed them to watch a scary movie and her son was now shaking and crying and couldn’t go to sleep. I had no idea what she was on about! I spoke to my son and he told me that they had all snuck into the house at around 5am and put on Stephen king’s IT. Our TV has parental controls but between 10pm and 6am you don’t need to enter a pin code to watch restricted content. I think most providers are the same? They had asked me the night before if they could watch a scary movie and I expressly told them NO. So these kids kept me (and probably my neighbours) up until 4am, they then sneak into the house when they know I’m sleeping and put on a movie that I have already said they couldn’t watch. The mum said to me that they were my responsibility and it was my job to make sure they were safe etc. She said her son did nothing wrong. I then texted the other mums to let them know what happened and all but one other mum apologised to ME and said their son should have known better. The other two mums held me responsible and were very upset.
Fast forward a year to now and my son’s birthday is coming up. I’ve invited them all to go to a trampoline park and everyone has replied except for those two mums who were upset with me. They are my son’s best friends and he is really sad that they aren’t coming. Is this all my fault? AIBU to think that this is so petty and that this is what boys get up to?! It’s all part of the fun of growing up and getting up to mischief? They went out of their way to do something they knew they weren’t allowed to do while I was fast asleep and now I’m seen as an irresponsible parent?