This is rude..... right?

[Kelsoooo]

DDS birthday party today.

Invites sent out four weeks ago, with RSVP of 17/6 on.

15 kids invited....7 parents have bothered to reply.

Luckily the venue have been awesome, as long as I pay for the minimum amount attending, they'll prep for the full 15 just in case.

How hard is it to send a text to accept/decline?

If they'd declined, fine we would have invited other kids....some new girls started in her class this week, it would have been lovely to invite them for example.

I just don't get it, I always reply the same day. I think it's so rude and makes things so much harder

For example, I have no idea if the birthday cake is big enough, if only seven come.... it is....if more come it isn't (I ordered a cake to serve 16 apparently, no way on earth will it).

So AIBU to think that not replying to an invite is just plain rude?

The WhatsApp group would be a good idea for next year, how on earth do I sort that out?

The whole-class WhatsApp group for DS's group was started in Foundation by one of the SAHMs who always does drop off and pick up and probably knows far more of the other parents than I do. (In fact I only found out it even existed a good year and a half later, when I asked the admin to add me...) With that in existence, it's easy to then cull contacts off the main list to make a party list.

If that doesn't exist in your child's class, maybe see if there's interest in having one, and see if one of the parents who is at the school gate daily would collect contacts? I mean, I do complain about ours, but it is useful for asking about lost homework or whether it's forest school tomorrow.

How many turned up in the end? Hope she had a nice party regardless.