To be irritated by DH

[literategiraffe]

DH has just stomped out of our bedroom and gone downstairs to the spare room to sleep. I can hear him throwing things off the spare bed in a huff. Presumably because I poked him to stop him snoring and startling our 12 wk old DD who I am currently feeding and trying to settle to go back into her cot.

DD is having a bit of a fussy day. Nothing too worrying she's just a bit quicker to cry and less easy to settle than normal. She's not ill (thank goodness) and has generally been ok but her night time nappy change has been louder and she's woken DH twice tonight. Usually he sleeps through everything, happily snoring away, and I am forever nudging, prodding, poking, shoving him to get him to move positions or just shut up! (This issue predates DD but his doctor has been pretty unhelpful and it seems we just have to live with it). If his snoring is not startling DD it's keeping me awake once I've put her down and I'm at my limit.

I'm so annoyed that he's stomped off in a huff because he's been wakened and then poked to stop snoring when I've not slept for longer than 4hrs in one go since DD was born!
AIBU or is he? Should I just put up with his snoring so we can share a bed? I've said to him before that if he wants a guaranteed uninterrupted sleep he should sleep in the spare room and he has when he's had important things on the next day, he's said he doesn't want to do it too often since "it sets a bad precedence".

Silicone Mouth guard thingy, brings the lower jaw forward a bit and cuts down the snore. (Bought online somewhere)
Husband still manages to do those tiny blowing bubbles sounds, now and again. which once I’ve heard them AAARRGH

Should I just put up with his snoring so we can share a bed?

No.

I've been with husband for 10 years and we've lived together for the past nearly 6. We very quickly established me in my own bedroom because of his sleep apnea which he has now a CPAP machine for. However I'm still in my own room.

It HASNT affected our marriage/intimacy/sex life or any other crap that's trotted out and personally if a dude objects he would move hell and high water to sort out the fucking noise they make when asleep.

Sleep is precious, especially when you have a small baby. Tell him to stay in the spare room or you and baby move in there.

Husband has an app on his phone that records his sleep and snoring.
After listening to himself, he realised why I sometimes decant to the spare room.

Cpap machines are wonderful. So much better quality sleep & no snoring. Get your husband to ask his GP to refer him to a sleep disorder centre. Will be doing both of you the world of good.

Just got back from holiday where had to share a bed with DH for first time since DD2, 14 weeks, was born. She's ebf and as with DD1 we decamped to the spare room so he could have uninterrupted sleep and get up earlier to do the things I used to do in the morning, eg take the dog out. Turns out his snoring is now completely out of control! I think he has bruises from all the prodding I've subjected him to. There's going to be trouble when DD goes into her own room in a few months and I move back in...

My DH snores really badly with no specific cause, and I'm with you OP. I get it's not their fault, but that doesn't make it any easier to sleep through! I'm typing this listening to my otherwise lovely husband making the most ridiculous racket and trying not to kill him

DH and I have had separate rooms for about 15 years now. We both snore, and the separate space has saved our marriage.

To those saying get referred to a sleep clinic- you only qualify for this if you have symptoms of sleep apnoea, such as snoring AND excessive daytime sleepiness. You can't just insist on a referral for snoring, and nor should you. It would be a complete waste of NHS resources.

Thanks for all the advice and personal experiences!
After a difficult night (altho I thought it was quite average) DH has realised that things have to change.
During the week he's going to sleep in the spare room and we're going to try all of the suggestions here one by one and see if any work for him. Being in the spare room will give me (and DD!) a break from his snoring so hopefully we will get a little bit more sleep.
He's also suggested that I express more (I was a little before when DD needed a top up but after a solid week of cluster feeding when she was 7 weeks it tailed off due to her sorting out my supply & literally not having any time) and that he will do a full night shift on a weekend night allowing me as much unbroken sleep as possible.
Not perfect but we'll see how we go.