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To not want to go out tomorrow in the heatwave?

21 replies

ILoveEurovision · 29/06/2019 01:30

DH has been saying for a few weeks that he wants to go to an event which is on tomorrow. It's a kind of mini-food festival at a local brewery about an hour's walk away (or alternatively an hour by bus getting two different buses). He wants me and DS (8 months) to come with him.

I would normally think this sounds like fun but it's going to be 28C around lunchtime tomorrow. I'm not used to dealing with DS in the hot weather and sun and am a bit nervous. I hate the heat anyway myself and really don't want to walk in the middle of the day when the sun is at it's worst. I would maybe get the bus if I have to but I'd rather just skip it tbh and spend the day at home in my underwear whilst moaning about how hot it is playing with DS in his nappy.

DS's pushchair has a hood to protect him from the sun and we have a UV filtering shade too, but DS's legs would be exposed if he's wearing a romper or shorts and the pushchair is covered in black fabric which obviously absorbs the heat.

To make things worse, DH wants to travel to get there at lunchtime which will mean leaving not long after DS wakes up from his morning nap. He often cries in the pushchair if he's not sleepy, and tbh I don't think he is likely to be content being in there for an hour. I hate it when he cries.

WIBU to say I don't want to go, or alternatively say if we are going then I insist on taking the bus so we can stay out of the sun at least? I'm not sure whether the buses have air con though... I expect DH will moan about the price of the bus tickets even though we have plenty of money.

To add, I'm not even sure if children are allowed. We've tried contacting the brewery which is the venue but they haven't responded to social media stuff and never answered the phone! DH says he's sure it'll be fine, and if worst comes to worst we can just go straight home. So that's a potential 2 hour walk in the hot sun then Hmm

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Forgotmycoat · 29/06/2019 01:34

No way would I do this. Not sure where you are, but it's likely to reach early 30s where I am tomorrow. Your baby will suffer. Maybe dh can go on his own?

CherryPavIova · 29/06/2019 01:35

I'm not even going to take my dog out during the day. DH and I are going to be chilling in the garden and ddog will be in his paddling pool (in the shade).

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 29/06/2019 01:57

Could you drive? Then you can leave whenever you want. Or alternatively an uber? I would go but I wouldn’t walk in this heat.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/06/2019 02:18

Would he compromise and walk during DS's nap, therefore earlier and less stressful and hot? I wouldn't go.

managedmis · 29/06/2019 02:36

No fucking way

It's actually dangerous to take a baby out at midday in this heat

Stay home

Fundays12 · 29/06/2019 02:40

No I wouldn’t we are in northern Scotland and it’s not as hot as further south but I still took my kids aged 7 and 2 inside from the sun yesterday from about 12.30 to 3.30. They had been playing with the hose and water table so we’re not feeling the heat. It’s far too hot for babies and young kids to be exposed to the sun for hours.

UnderOverUnderRover · 29/06/2019 02:55

Absolutely not.

It regularly gets to 40 degrees here in summer and people adjust to it, but walking for an hour in the middle of the day with a baby is really irresponsible. As would a bus be if it's not air-conditioned.

Keeps blinds and windows shut, find a shady spot in your backyard and chill. Heatwaves are not the time to be flitting about.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 29/06/2019 03:02

Not a hope. Setting aside the travel problems, do you really want to be taking a baby who will be hot and inevitably grumpy round a food festival?

Stay at home and enjoy the heat from the shade!

Decormad38 · 29/06/2019 03:25

@Ilover do you live in my Yorkshire city by any chance. Going to same thing!

AmICrazyorWhat2 · 29/06/2019 03:30

We frequently have summer weather like this here in the US (it hit 32C today!) and no, people don't walk outside for an hour during the hottest part of the day, it's asking for sunburn and heat exhaustion.

If your DH wants to sweat it out, tell him to wear a hat, sun cream, and bring water, but your DS won't be coming along.

Screamanger · 29/06/2019 03:34

I am going to go against the trend and say I would go. It hit 32C here today, and we were out and about with 9 week old DD, she was ok. It’s currently 25in the bedroom.

newmomof1 · 29/06/2019 03:37

No way would I take the baby out in that heat!

Cornedbeefpie · 29/06/2019 03:51

Stay at home OP and keep your baby cool. I live in Oz now where we’re used to living with the heat but dealing with heatwave summers when I’m back in England has been a killer. Nobody can understand why I struggle with it. There’s limited shade and cooling, just not set up for very hot weather. The shops don’t all have air con, buses had the heaters running in July and everywhere runs out of cold drinks very quickly. Another thing I noticed was limited ability to keep cold food at the correct temperature, hence food poisoning! The way some houses retain the heat is unbelievable. Yes, I’m a whinging Pom!!

Monty27 · 29/06/2019 03:54

Sounds like hell on earth imho.
Don't know why he thinks it'll be fun. Leave him to it.

OkPedro · 29/06/2019 04:25

It’s due to rain here in the next few hours 😭 (Ireland) I would stay indoors with an 8 month old in over 25c weather though..

Pinkfinkle · 29/06/2019 04:33

Sounds safest to stay indoors in those circumstances. I also have an 8 month old and I wouldn’t be willingly walking six miles in the heat today. We are going out though but in the car so can always get back home if it gets too unbearable.

PigOnStilts · 29/06/2019 05:22

Your husband is being so selfish.

OvalCanvas · 29/06/2019 05:26

Stay home with your baby.

finn1020 · 29/06/2019 05:32

Do you mean 28 or 38? 28 is just wear a hat, drink plenty of cool water, and take a light cardigan too if you might be in an air conditioned bus. 28 is not very hot but 38 is unpleasant and I would not take a baby out for long in heat like that.

ILoveEurovision · 29/06/2019 10:42

We're in the south west. DH is being reasonable and is content to go on his own and is not sulking about it.

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GruciusMalfoy · 29/06/2019 10:47

It's probably best he goes on his own. I remember when my son was about 7 or 8mo and I totally underestimated how hot it was one day, I ended up making myself ill (headache, nausea) from walking in the middle of the day. Luckily DS was fine in his pushchair with his shade. I wouldn't do it again.

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