Boring nights out

[Revulva]

I know IABU. I just don't have another outlet to vent my frustrations.

Once upon a time, and for a long time, I lived in London and I would go out dancing all night. It was fun. It was different. I met all sorts of people. I got the first tube home in the morning or sometimes I didn't get home until the following afternoon. It's not everyone's cup of tea but I danced to the music I loved and I felt alive.

Now I'm a middle aged mum and I live in a different part of the country. Lots of people here have always lived here. There is a nightlife of sorts but it's not to my taste. If I go out with other mums many want to be home and in bed by 10. Even those who will stay out a bit later feel so different to me.

I don't necessarily want to go out all night but I at least want to go out with people for whom that isn't a shocking thing they have never done. Nights out always seem boring.

Am I the only one who feels like this or do other people find people around them are old and boring before their time?

I imagine you'd find it a bit of a disappointment if you tried to recreate the nights out of your youth, to be honest.

Yes, I don't want to recreate them. I wasn't even that young when I had that nightlife though. I guess I would like to think that at some point in my life I will have another night out where I am a little bit reckless with like-minded people.

I doubt you will find that with the crowd you are describing. Maybe you need to look further afield by taking a night class or doing a college course?

Or go to a Mumsnet meet-up? They can get quite hairy .

Yes my nights out with local mums tend to be tame affairs too. Pleasant enough but all very civil.

I get more raucous fun with my old friends from time to time. A wee all-nighter once in a blue moon.

Sounds like you need to find like minded friends, which I know is easier said than done when you've moved somewhere new. I'm still friends with people from my clubbing days and we'll occasionally do something like Secret Rave which is mainly for people of our age and is brilliant or we will have a proper all night bender , not often but I need that kind of release every now and again, so I know exactly what you mean. Is there a big city near you that you can suggest you all go for a night out? Or can you have a weekend back in London with old friends every once in a while and let your hair down.

How old are you? i find alot of people old before their time too. However sometimes recreating nights of the past make me feel old