To not be treated like this when volunteering?

[kerala]

SO angry. Just got back from my session at the local hospital where I give a talk to the ante natal groups about using reusable nappies. I arranged with the midwife to do the talk have done it twice now. As I have no childcare I have to take dd who is 1.

This week the midwife totally ignored me and carried on with the session as if I were not there. She knew I was there as she acknowledged me. Last time she made a point of letting me do my 10 mins first so I could slip away as dd1 gets cranky as its her bedtime.

Today she just ignored me and carried on with the session so I had to leave after half an hour. Dont understand! Am so cross - its hard enough getting there with dd after a long day looking after her, I pay my own bus fare etc to try to do the right thing and get treated like this! Not bothering again.

Why not explain this to her next week - get there early and have a chat with her, I'm sure she will understand and doubt she did it out of spite, if the session was already underway maybe she thought it best to continue.

not on at all - i am not surprised you don't understand her behaviour
you should call her and explain how you feel

She knows the score - she even explained to me last time how I must go first as I had to get the baby home. She is a midwife ffs so should understand what it is like with small children.

I did get there early. She got there late, saw me and then carried on the session and did not stop to let me do my bit.

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i am a bit they don't re-imburse your bus fare too
i think she was totally out of order and how strange to ignore you

Don't let her put you off - your talk will be of interest to lots of people, and extremely useful.

Go again, but assert yourself a bit more.

Get there a bit earlier and clearly state that you need to go first, like you did on the previous occasion.

Thanks for your posts

I can only assume it was a deliberate snub as she saw me and knew why I was there and saw me struggling with a tired one year old.

The couples at the ante-natal class must have thought I was a total nutter turning up with a big baby staying for half an hour then leaving!