Aibu to be feeling old with my eldest at prom and only I'm 35 she looked stunning by the way

[Codywolf]

Just that I'm 35 and feeling very old with my dd1 at prom not due home till midnight I can't believe how fast it has gone

also have last dd2 starting secondary school in September it just feels wrong how fast they grow up

Dd1 looked about 18 when done up

I’m 35 and my eldest is 4. I don’t remotely feel old! I guess I will when he’s 18! Hope I’m making you feel young OP

You must have had her very young if you are only 35. I was 57 when DD had her year 11 prom.

be very very proud. xxx But yep - it does go very fast!

She looked 18? But she is.... 16???

They grow so fast @Codywolf

You're not old though my lovely!

Hope she’s had a good night!

It's because it's another milestone. I'm 47and my youngest has prom next week. You're as old as you feel but I get a horrible shock when I catch sight of myself in a mirror and I look 10 years older than I feel!

I’m the same age as you and my niece (18) has just had her prom. It’s bittersweet. I’m remembering that feeling of being on the cusp of your whole life being about to begin and how amazing it is and seeing it happen to someone I remember holding as a newborn when I was younger than she is now is so strange. It’s definitely a reminder that I’m not young anymore and how the things I dreamed for myself back then didn’t materialise. No one ever asked me to marry them or wanted a baby with me and I ended up in a different career to the one I thought I would. I hope that she finds more happiness than I did and that she doesn’t have as many regrets when she’s my age. It definitely feels like it’s my turn to “move over” if that makes sense? But, oh, what I wouldn’t give to have it all to do again and be the young girl going out to the prom.

I can’t imagine how intense the feelings must be when it’s your own daughter. You must have not been that much older than she is now when she was born.

I understand. I'm 37 and my eldest is going to be a teenager next week. I feel ancient.

I am 41 and took my 17 month old first born to Clarks today to get measured for her first shoes. The man serving me was a trainee just starting a holiday position as he is a student in the subject and department that I graduated in and did my PhD in........20 years ago when he was being born. I felt ancient and a bit ridiculous even though I am not THAT old to be a mum.

Thank you everyone for repiles x I'm just sat here waiting for her to come home

The reason I said she looks older is she never wears make up so it abit if a shock

I forget about about different ages as a lot of mums in my area are about my age so forget not everyone has that young

I find the opposite to be the case . I had my first child at 26 and felt young when she went to the Prom because all the other parents were about a decade older.

Christ you've just made me feel very old. Hope she had a great night!

I found moving on to each of my dc's milestone really hard,

I am 53 and DD1 has just graduated, even writing that makes me feel very old, she has got a good job living in London with her boyfriend. She officially moved out, no more coming back from Uni holidays to stay, all her stuff is gone. DD2 is going into second year.

DH and I are feeling pretty much redundant! but very proud of what they have achieved.

Weirdly I didn't feel that emotional when they left Secondary, but I cried like a baby when they left Primary, and 6th Form.

I am 37 and my DD(in the sixth form) is currently looking at universities. I feel like I only just graduated myself.

Codywolf,

I had no idea that they held proms in the UK nowadays. When I last lived there, I left in 2004, there was no such thing.
I never went to prom myself and only one DC did, in fact, it was not my DD but my DS2.
From the photos and the tales, it sounded like they had an incredible time.

I hope that your DD has had a wonderful time tonight.

I had DS1 at age 21 so I was not as young as you but young-ish. I was 27 with DS2 and 30 with DD. However, I became a grandmother at age 41. My DGD will be 7 in a few weeks.

So, I am young in some situations and older in others. Regardless, time moves pretty fast.

I don't why having older children makes some people feel old . It doesn't make sense . Surely you are the age you are regardless of how old your children are.
If a person has their first at 15 how could they possibly feel old at 30 ish the child reaches milestones ,going to Prom , etc. when they're not ?
Where I live the majority of people have their families late , starting late 30s to early forties. So when there're children so to Proms, start Uni etc, they are actually old.

elp30 I went to my prom, in the UK, in 2003. My school had been having them for decades by that point and all the local schools in my town had them too. It was a really big deal, like it is today; limo rental, fake tans and nails, hair and makeup appointments. I had no idea that there were parts of the UK that didn’t have proms or leavers balls going back to the 90s/00s. It was definitely the done thing where I’m from.

This made me smile Hope e had a good night.

*she

@elp30 in 2004 there were proms in UK school, I know because that's the year I had mine 
@Codywolf I so get this, ds is only 14 but 5.11 and sometimes he catches me off guard. One second he looks like my baby the next a grown man. At 31, I'm still young but in my mind I've been a parent for 14 years so feel older.

OP you are not old though I understand why you are feeling so, and asking where the time has gone, so to speak.

The best thing about the OP comments is the rarity of a young woman of 16 not caked in make up all the time they leave the house. Someone who has not been a sheep.

Can someone explain why having old children makes you feel old please?
I genuinely don't get it .