To ask for a handhold & wonder if i’ll Ever lose the baby weight

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I have 2 young dc the youngest is 15 months. I’ve lost 2.5 stone since he was born. I’ve hit a brick wall and haven’t lost anything in about 6 weeks now. I’m 10st 3lb and 5ft 2 so still have a bit more weight to lose. I’m sick of being the chubby, frumpy mother at baby groups.

I’m still a bit sleep deprived as DS2 doesn’t sleep all that well at the moment and is still breastfed. I do lots of walking with my kids, I do couch to 5k and run 3 times a week. But I can’t seem to change my mindset about food. Im always thinking about food and counting down to the next meal, particularly at work.

Does anyone have any bright ideas or reassurance. Sorry for posting in AIBU, and for the sympathy post. I just feel really miserable right now.

What are you actually eating?

Have you tried writing down everything you eat? Might help to see it all in black and white.
Next time you go shopping make some healthier swaps eg granary bread instead of white, carrots to cut into sticks instead of crisps etc.
Try not to drink any alcohol, and no sugary drinks. Buy a nice refillable bottle to keep handy.
Have a think about flash points eg for me after dinner I want chocolate, so I brush my teeth immediately to beat the craving.
Are you cooking healthy meals or grabbing easy stuff? We all do it but generally homemade meals have less added sugar etc.

Also, don't be afraid of being hungry before meals. Sounds obvious but you need to be able to read your body's hunger cues.

I lost weight when they started sleeping through. Came right off.

Whether you lose the weight or not is entirely up to you - nobody will do it for you. For what it's worth, it took me 4 years.

Pro tip - SOUP. Fills you up, bigtime, and can be very low on calories. Replacing my usual breakfast/lunch with soup really kickstarted my weight loss and helped with many a plateau.

It's great that you're exercising, just don't forget that you can't outrun your fork.

I have a cast iron rule in this house - don't finish the child's food. We hate waste, but we've found that both DP and I do better with keeping weight off if we never touch what's left on DS's plate if he leaves anything. But you need to be comfortable for you, not to conform to anyone else's idea of what you should be, so be happy and enjoy your children while they're little x

Wow! Now I feel like shit jokeesss
I’m about 5ft and weigh 9st13 so not so different to you and deffo wouldn’t describe myself as the chubby one at baby group.
Totally not trying to minimise how you are feeling at all, it’s very personal but stop being so hard on yourself xx

Hi OP

No real advice but sympathy, I am feeling the same. Lost the first 2.5 stone then it just stopped!

I think in the throes of sleep deprivation I got used to eating a lot to try and keep me going and now I maybe have a problem with portion sizes, snacking and binging.

I have realised I eat when I'm only a bit hungry whereas I should be actually fairly hungry. And I dont really stop when im full if it's something really nice. And I binge once or twice a week and that undoes any good work. I'm just so tired and busy I feel I cant concentrate on being healthier. But I'm so sick of wearing my one pair of fat jeans every single day.

If and when I ever have a bit more time I'm going to try and get a bit more sleep as I think this affects my willpower. Cut back the booze as it's always when I've had a drink that I open the crisps. And watch my portion sizes a bit more even if it means throwing food away