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Is he milking it?

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justsomebodyox · 28/06/2019 20:15

NC for this as to not out myself. Honest opinions if I'm being unreasonable here but my DP had sinus surgery 2 weeks ago and it has literally started to feel like he's taking the piss. He has stopped all help with things like washing dishes, clothes, cooking, cleaning etc (he normally always helps and is generally really good).. He says he isn't allowed to do anything because he should be resting and I understand that he shouldn't be doing strenuous things like exercise but he won't even put a pizza in the oven. I'm 7 months pregnant and been doing absolutely everything! I get back from work and have to do everything and I'm exhausted. The first week he wasn't well and I've taken really good care of him and done everything but it's been over 2 weeks now and he's honestly fine, we've even DTD.. He's not even taking pain relief anymore, refuses to drive anywhere as well and does the whole I've had surgery I'm resting bullshit 😒 I've had a massive go at him tonight because he asked me what I'm doing for dinner and I've told him he can fuck off and stop milking it and he's now sulking saying how he's in pain and feels so poorly, to make me feel bad but i just feel like he's trying to drag it out as much as possible!

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AnathemaPulsifer · 28/06/2019 20:16

Utterly milking it. Well enough for sex, not well enough to put a pizza in the oven. Twat.

sevenoftwelve · 28/06/2019 20:16

When will he be back at work?

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justsomebodyox · 28/06/2019 20:17

Next week..

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justsomebodyox · 28/06/2019 20:18

He still hasn't made anything for dinner, he's now decided he's going to have a nap

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Expressedways · 28/06/2019 20:21

If he can manage a shag he can cook a pizza. It’s an in/out (of the oven) motion isn’t it?!
Definitely liking it, not surprised you snapped.

ilikepurple · 28/06/2019 20:22

When you've had the baby make sure you rest and recuperate and do nothing except look after the baby and when he complains remind him how long it took him to recover from his sinus op Wink

mineofuselessinformation · 28/06/2019 20:23

Sinus surgery can be extremely painful to recover from.
But, he has a bloody cheek if he's well enough for sex (I'm assuming he took an active part in it?), so he needs to get a grip.

onalongsabbatical · 28/06/2019 20:23

While he's napping, order yourself a nice takeaway OP.

Expressedways · 28/06/2019 20:25

Liking it??? That should be milking it! He’s definitely milking it.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 28/06/2019 20:25

Well you make sure you enjoy your dinner (put his in the dog) and when he finishes his nap tell him you didn’t want to wake him as he told you he needed his rest Wink

Cryalot2 · 28/06/2019 20:27

Flowers sounds as if he is worried about himself. Good at being a patient.
No nookie as he clearly much too unwell.
Suggest if he feels this bad then perhaps he is worse than you thought and tell him to get medical advice. That should call his bluff .

Cheerybigbottom · 28/06/2019 20:30

Er yeah he is milking it. My dad (in his late 50s) had sinus surgery on Wednesday and he made a cake today for his step grandsons birthday tomorrow.

In fact he was up walking about the day after his his replacement.

I mean there's resting as in conserving energy for small jobs and there's absolutely milking it like your DH. I mean he's well enough for sex and doesn't even need painkillers?

I hope he remembers how you cared for him when you have the new baby!

VivienneHolt · 28/06/2019 20:31

He can have sex but not load a dishwasher or heat up a pizza? What an arsehole!

hadthesnip2 · 28/06/2019 20:33

Most definitely 100% milking it. I've had cornea surgery in both eyes (on separate occasions) & still managed to cook myself a meal a day or two afrerwards.

Lwmommy · 28/06/2019 20:35

My MiL in her 60s with rheumatoid arthritis had sinus surgery and was up and about doing household chores within a week. I think he's stretching it a little.

Geminijes · 28/06/2019 20:36

He's milking it.

I had sinus surgery 2 years ago and was advised to rest for the day after surgery and then just be careful that I didn't knock my nose at all.

The pain level will be the same if's he in bed or if's he up and about helping you. He's just being lazy.

Whathappenedtooursummer · 28/06/2019 20:36

Ask the me to confirm you have to rest for 6vweeks pp. Absofuckinglutely not a finger...

Eurovision · 28/06/2019 20:38

Had a lumpectomy and although a little slow was back in charge of children by day 3.He is being an absolute piss taker.

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justsomebodyox · 28/06/2019 20:42

Well at least I know I'm not being unreasonable! definitely putting my foot down. He's obviously just really enjoyed having me do absolutely everything and wants it to continue but he can absolutely do one if he thinks that!

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Strongecoffeeismydrug · 28/06/2019 20:52

Tell him straight he's milking it!
My 5 year old had sinus surgery plus tonsils out adenoids out and grommets put in 2 weeks ago.
Within 24 hours she was back to normal and today has competed in a 2 hour sports day.
He needs to man up .

iamyourequal · 28/06/2019 20:57

He is definitely milking it. I truly hope for your sake he gets his act together by the time the baby comes. Flowers

LegionOfDoom · 28/06/2019 21:12

Definitely milking it.

Mil had sinus surgery last year and was up and about after a couple of days. We went to check in with her 4 days after and she had cooked a Sunday roast for us!

AlexaAmbidextra · 28/06/2019 21:31

Well he wasn’t resting when he fancied a shag was he? Fucking hypocrite. I certainly wouldn’t be indulging his sexual desires anymore while he’s so fragile and I’d be telling him so. 🙄

blackteasplease · 28/06/2019 22:58

Milking it to within an inch of its life I'd say!

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