To let DD go to the summer fair on her own.

[TravellingSpoon]

School summer fair tonight, DH is out and its just DD, DS and I. DS has severe asd and will not attend in a million years.

AIBU to drop DD off, give her a time I will pick her up and let her go by herself. She is nearly 11 and in year 5.

Worried about teachers judging me!

do you know parents on any of her pals who might keep an eye on her? I mean, I think it's probably fine, I man a stall at hours and barely see DD (9) for hours on end.

My dd aged 6 ran round hers by herself while I was on one of the stalls. She wasn't the only one! I honestly can't even comprehend that an 11 yo might be a problem.

My Dd is year 6 but the last two years so years 4 and 5 I ve given her money and she's gone off with her friends while we drink cider in the sunshine so I don't see any problem at all :-)

My eldest is the same age and I’d let her but make clear what she should and do and where she can go etc. My youngest son has asd and I couldn’t take them to the school fair so my eldest has gone off.

She will be fine, does she have a mobile?

As long as you can trust her not to leave the site with anyone else, she should be fine.

I would, but I would also ask any other parents of her friends to keep an eye/they can hang around together.

She will be fine, Travelling Spoon. The teachers may not even notice and if they do say anything (which I doubt), you have a reasonable explanation - her dad is out and you have to stay home to look after her brother. You're going to pick her up, I presume she has a 'phone so if she wants to leave earlier, she can ring you.

Lots of kids go to school events on their own. I remember going to a school fair, on a Saturday afternoon, on my own when I was ten, no one thought anything of it.

I'd do it. By year 5 I think teachers are happy to see children gain independence in this way. If your DD is nearly 11 then she missed year 6 by weeks. She'd nearly be off to secondary school.

My dd, y5, and all her friends would be mortified if their parent hung around with them at the school fair. Of course it's fine.

Are there any ageing 1970’s male TV presenters or entertainers likely to be there? If so, it’s not a good idea to let them go on their own, or even to let them go at all.

Fine.

I might have been on site for summer fairs but as I was running them I never really saw my DDs. From Juniors they went round by themselves and only came back for more money.

Thank you. I have sent her off with strict instructions not to leave the site and to meet me at the gate at 7pm.

She missed year 6 by 3 days, so yes, so close to being off to secondary school in September. She is sensible and my only concern will be that she will run out of money quickly and be bored!