Almost certainly, yes

[NotDoingThat]

DH and I have a 4mo DC, I'm currently on maternity leave. 3 weekends ago I went away overnight, leaving DH with DC alone overnight (or for any long period of time) for the first time. Usually I do all the night stuff on my own.

It went fairly well- except- there is STILL a (wrapped) nappy on the floor on his side of the bed from that overnight!

I mentioned it at the time and a few times since when we were tidying- 'oh DH can you just grab that nappy' or something like that, but it's still there.

We were both absolute slobs before we had DC obviously I'm doing more of the housework now being on leave.

But DH is really starting to slack again with tidying up after himself and at first I was making a point not picking it up, now I'm fairly sure I'm just being gross!

Should I stick to my guns or AIB totally, totally U?

Seriously? He's disgusting
Why would he not have just binned it at the time?
Does he do any housework usually? I'm guessing not. Gross

Stick to your guns as long as you can bear it!!!

You're both being gross. Just pick it up.

Jesus. One of you just pick the friggen nappy up.

Your both fairly disgusting leaving if there. Some things aren’t worth a battle of wills

Honestly I would just have picked it up and not had it lying on our bedroom floor for three weeks (not envy)! But we don't do this kind of point scoring division of labour - if something needs done then whoever is able to do it at the time does it. If it's been there for three weeks then I don't think it's working as a tactic...

Ooh no - do NOT pick up that nappy (you could always put a 'fresher' one there so he thinks it's the original)
He put it there, he can pick it up!

Stick to your guns. Otherwise it will be a slippery slope to you doing everything forever and massively resenting it.

If you do move it, move it somewhere inconvenient for him - his side of the bed maybe, or on top of his shoes?

Put it on his pillow he'd definitely have to bin it then 🤷‍♀️

Put it on his pillow and call him a filthy get. How grim. Even more grim that you've left it there instead of moving it and having a go tbh.

Yes ok with housework usually but doesn't seem to anything independently- eg will vacuum when I ask him to but would be waist deep in crumbs etc before he thought to do it himself! A fair amount of my mornings are usually tidying up little things after him like boxers on the floor, opening the window after he's showered, putting glasses in the sink etc that I'm just fed up.

I have had a bit of a rant at him about it but it's still there. Yes I know I'm being stubborn and proud but I spend SO much time picking up after him. I didn't expect this stand off to last so long!

Oh dear. Look, this is not only seriously gross, but it’s childish.

Pick it up and put it under his pillow

I romised my OH I'd try to be less passive aggressive. His response 'I long for passive aggressive!'

Anyway that's how we roll.

What’s worse is how childish the situation is. Just tell him how he’s made you feel and let him see your raw emotion then have him watch you throw the bloody thing out

He won’t pick it up because he doesn’t care and you forcing him to pick it up is even more reason not to do it

You’re just looking like an idiot to him now

Wow and you two parent together?
Grow up, pick the nappy up.
This petty point scoring does not bode well for your future relationship.

I suspect it’s now become a battle of wills, and he will not give in and move it as that would be admitting defeat.
How about declaring a truce. You pick up the nappy together, one corner each, and take it to the bin together. Then you sit down and devise a fair split of chores on some kind of rota, and stick to it.
If you don’t sort this out now, you will be doing the mug’s share of the chores for the rest of your married life. He’s testing your boundaries of how much you’ll let him get away with. Stamp on it hard now.

Tbh I can see why the OP is trying to make a point.
If He is so lazy that he can’t even out a nappy in the bin, what chance does she have for him to do ANYTHING in the house?

I think I would have put the nappy on the top of his side of the bed tbh.

But your issue is much wider. You can NOT spend your time picking up after him like this.
So you need a chat about te minimum that is required. He needs to start looking after his dc (stop the ‘oh I’m on ML leave therefore I’m doing it all’ because the only thing you will achieve is for him to learn he doesn’t have to do anything at all). And you need a clear repartition of tasks that you each responsible for.
So he might be responsible for hoovering and you are responsible for cooking etc.... You do the evening routine every other day etc...

I can't believe people are saying to leave it. Pick it up either of you.

I suspect it’s now become a battle of wills, and he will not give in and move it as that would be admitting defeat.

Agree but then who is thinking that having a battle of will over a nappy in HIS side of the bed is a good idea

This is ridiculous .. you are the parents here! One of you pick up the nappy and come up with some kind of housework routine that works for you all! Surely just leaving it there in the middle of summer until one of you caves isn't the best option!!

Eww
If you want to win this fast, bend down, pick it up and place it on his pillow.

Put it on his pillow he'd definitely have to bin it then

He would put it back on the floor.

Damn, Ticklingcheese got there before me

though to be fair I was going to suggest under his pillow. On top of his pillow makes it too easy to tip it over the side. Under the pillow he won't find until he's in bed. If he puts it down the side again, under the sheet the next night. Then in his glove compartment. I'd never give up, I'm very committed

I don't view myself as a push over, But seriously, I would have just picked the nappy up rather than continuing to ask.

Unless my DH was a major slob who took the piss, I dont think i would have even registered it and did it automatically, like My DH tidys away after me.