If you have more than one child attending a birthday party....

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children should take a present each or you should spend a bit more on a gift?

I have two pre-schoolers and a baby. We've all been invited to a 6th birthday party and its got me wondering whether my children should take a gift each or I should spend a bit more on a present because I have two children attending, and in time it will be three!

Thoughts please?

What's the question you want people to vote on?

No you would not be unreasonable to to either of the things you suggest.

oops the question is should you take more than one gift/spend a bit more if you have more than one child attending?

I definitely wouldn’t be paying more for the baby.

Possibly if there are two children eating party food, getting a party bag etc.

I would get one gift but spend a bit more than normal.

I have Twins, and if they were both invited to a party they would take a present each. My thought process was that they would be receiving a present each at their party. Your situation is slightly different though, but personally I think I would do a gift from each child (not the baby!)

I make sure there is something for them each to take but one isa decent gift and one is maybe sweets or something.

I’d by a gift each, because if you had a party I doubt kids would bring a present for your dc to ‘share’, they were get one each.

I’d spend a bit more than normal on the gift, or maybe give two smaller connected gifts. I wouldn’t hand over separately wrapped gifts from each child though.

I'd buy two presents. I think - depending on the age of the recipient - that children are all about the quantity rather than the quality at a young age … I don't mean they prefer cheap rubbish, but children don't always see a 'better' present and realise that more money has been spent on it. My DF always remembers a party he went to as a child, and when twins walked in with one gift, the little girl turned to the twin not carrying the gift, and said 'where's your present?'

So do you mean "Am I unreasonable to think that you should take more than one gift/spend a bit more if you have more than one child attending?"?

YANBU = spend more
YABU = spend the same

I'd buy a bit more expensive gift. I think it's preferable to taking two cheaper gifts.
I usually spend a round £8-£10 on a birthday gift for a child's friend. I'd probably up it to £15.

Just spend a little more than usual, £15 instead of £10 sort of thing.

If both of mine are going to a party I'll spend a little more on the present or buy two small presents depending on the birthday child and what they like. For example if I know they really like something but it's more than I'd usually spend, I'll buy that, but if they like little bits or books or whatever then I'll get 2 separate presents.

I have twins and take a present and card from each of them and only on the odd occasion combine the money and buy a big present.

I have two very close in age and they often get invited to the same parties. We go for a bigger gift.

It doesn't really matter, I would do either, depending on the gift I find.

It's probably easier to double the amount, but if you have lots of gifts in stock (I do a big bulk shop in the sales in January!), give 2.

Definitely one gift.

It isn't an exchange. Give a gift the birthday child would like and is within your budget. I certainly don't give two presents.