Wasting my time with this woman?

[allypallyt]

This has been my first time with a woman.
We only see each other once every couple of weeks.
We text daily.
She seems interested.
I seen her two weeks today and she stayed at mine.
Then she's text every day but no talk of seeing me again.
I asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend last night but she said she already had plans.
I feel so deflated and upset.
If you like someone you want to see them.
It just feels pointless.
I don't know what I've done wrong.
Do I just leave it now?

How am I full on?

She hasn't spoken to me so far today.
So it's only been a few hours? Normal.

I'm just worried that's it now.
You're worried she hasn't text in a few hours? People get busy, phone dead, left at home, she's at work? Come on now.

I asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend last night but she said she already had plans.
It's not unusual that people make plans in advance. It's easy to ask "When are you free?" and go from then.

I feel so deflated and upset.
Really? Because she has plans with other people?

If you like someone you want to see them.
Yes, but you don't cancel plans you already have to see them, as that makes you a shitty person.

You don't see it but this isn't 'normal' behaviour. You're coming across obsessive and quite dramatic. You need to take a step back and re-assess your actions / feelings. Perhaps work on that before getting into a relationship with someone.

I asked her last night.
She messaged me about 40 mins ago.
So maybe I was just being paranoid.
I hate getting like this.
Tuesday night she was texting all the time and there has been no reason for me to think she was loosing interest.
I think all of this has been in my head and I've created it all in my head.
Then she messages as normal and I think
What are you doing

She's probably busy with her children/ job/ life. I can often have long text conversations with friends once the kids are in bed that I'd never be able to have in the day. Chill out

OP google attachment disorders. You clearly have one and need to put coping mechanisms in place. Over analysing and obsessing even slightly is not normal. It's an issue. You need to try and change your thought process.

@Tallgreenbottle I over analyse all the time.
Not just dating side of my life but health/work etc
I hate that I do it.

@fluffyblue

She's text saying she's managed to get a sitter for Sunday and do I want to go out for the day.
All that worry for nothing

Yes. For nothing. Learn from today.

You asked her the night before and expected her to just be free?

On a child free Friday night?

Let's not internet diagnose people eh?

OP, my DD is dating, she has children. The most frustrating part for her is not making plans well ahead of time.

As it's been said, ypu don't keep open your child free days, just in case someone suddenly decides they want to see you.

You should never cancel on your friends for a new Boyfriend.

Unless you can appreciate her responsibilities and independence, then it will go nowhere.

With a single parent, always take into account that they may view dating very differently than someone child free.

But for most people, anticipation is a turn on.

Aww, I think people are being a little harsh here OP. I always hate the early days of dating, yes I should be enjoying them, but there's all that uncertainty. I can't read people at all, and never know how much to text/not to text etc. If you're not a confident person and/or you have been let down before this stuff is doubly hard. I hope that it works out for you, good luck!

Not just dating side of my life but health/work etc. I hate that I do it.

It's just your way of protecting yourself from being hurt. It doesn't work, but it comes from a good place. I agree with the other poster who suggested looking up attachment styles (although I don't think you have any more of a disordered attachment than the rest of us).

Reading between the lines. I honestly don't think its the brush off. I do think she genuinely had plans.

You write like you're writing a poem. Maybe that annoyed her?