Husband going away

[Honeybee27]

My dp is going away on a stag weekend until Tuesday and as tragic as it sounds I feel really upset!
We rarely spend time apart and I'm not sure what I'll do this weekend without him especially given the weather, meaning everyone will be busy doing family stuff. I'm planning to do some nice things with the kids but also have a decorator coming so will need to be here for him at times.
I genuinely don't mind my dp going away and enjoying time with his family and friends without me. And am prepared to be called needy 🙈 but just wondered if anyone else gets like this and have you any suggestions of what to do while he's away? Think evenings will be the worst.

I'm the opposite! I adore dh and he seriously pulls his weight with the house and kids, but we both love it when the other has a weekend away. Stuff stays tidier, I can just eat what I want, it's nice to have intensive time with the dc.

But, disclaimer, we both work ft so our time with the kids is reduced to start with. If I was a SAHP and it was 3 more days of the same then I may feel differently about the daytime.

Dh is on an afternoon/ night out Saturday and I've got a full plan of what me and dc will do and all the nice nibbles I'll eat when they go to bed and the movie I've saved to watch.

No, it doesn’t bother me at all, unless it’s excessive and I don’t also get that time. Bit it sounds like you could use some time to start doing some things you enjoy. What do you do with your days? Why not plan your own weekend away?

No, I love being alone. I'd easily fill my time with reading, running, Netflix, cooking.

My DH has just been working away for 4 weeks. Enjoy the time on your own.!

No, DH is in the armed forces and I find it odd to be so in need of someone's presence 100% of the time as an adult tbh. You'll be fine.

Do you not have hobbies or friends? I would spend my time in the gym, cycling, eating, seeing friends, catching up on tv that dp doesn't like

When my kids were little DH was in the Army and away for weeks or months. I loved having the kids to myself , we had fun and I could do my own thing. You need to get realistic OP - a few days with the kids AND a decorator coming, the days will fly past . Enjoy !

Buy yummy food to have on your own in front of the telly, start a new book, go to bed early and listen to podcasts, take the dc out for sausage and chips or take them to the cinema.

Oh I'm definitely looking forward to having some one on one time with the kids. And it'll be nice to cook and eat what we like and watch what I want on tv lol. I guess I'll just miss him. I get that it sounds daft to people who are used to their partners working away etc.
I love hearing what people get up to when they have a bit of free time on their hands :)
Netflix and takeaways are definitely a must x

Packet of biscuits and netflix. Heaven! I always take the opportunity to watch horror movies cos my DH hates them or I settle in with a book. You may enjoy it more than you thought! And spread eagle in bed, it’s wonderful! Tbh I’d prob try to find a babysitter and get a night completely alone. Then it would be wine, takeout and horror movies.

DH has been away since Monday with work.. I've loved it. Not as much as next week though when I'm away for the night ohh the joy of a full night's sleep and a hotel breakfast all on my own.

I'd really miss my husband, he's my favourite person who I didn't give birth to.

When he's not around I plan something nice to do with our son, that's pretty darn lovely.

I'm also fine with this. I think I'd be worried if I was you that I was so dependent on someone else that I was really upset if I had to function on my own. Hopefully this weekend will show you you are more than able.

Oh I know I'm more than capable of functioning alone lol, I was a single mother for several years so I'm familiar with nights alone! I just love being with dh and will miss him. After years of planning weekends as a family I just think it'll feel a bit odd but there are definitely things I'm looking forward to!

I get it OP. Objectively I’m fine when DH is away, but I miss him and everything is just a bit emptier without him around. Always count down the days til he’s back, and I know he’s the same when I’m away.

I’d find it a bit much if a partner couldn’t cope with me going away for one weekend, to be honest.

Is there a film you’d like to see that your husband wouldn’t really enjoy, or a box set you’d like to binge-watch, but he’d moan about? Take the chance to enjoy owning the remote. P.S. Ben and Jerry’s is on special at Sainsbury’s at the moment

Mine is away for months at a time and we have a newborn, so I do find it, personally, a bit much to be that upset, but everyone is different. Keep yourself busy and enjoy the sunshine, no offense but it's doubtful he will be pining for home so make the most of it :)

I think you can both miss someone and appreciate their absence. I miss dh when he's away, but quite enjoy not having to talk to anyone of an eve, eating what I want and having the whole bed to myself and the toddler

I actually wish I missed DH when he's away. It worries me slightly that I don't. But then, he's only ever away for three consecutive nights at most, so it's not that long.

I remember when we'd only been together for a few months or a year, I used to crave him and miss him so much! Maybe we've just settled.

Make the most of it! Another vote here for Netflix, put your feet up when the kids are in bed. Read. Don't do what I do and fill the time with chores! lol. My DH works away and I often think 'tonight I'll have a bath, do a face-mask and watch a film'. Gets to 10.30pm and I'm folding laundry....

I'm the same - my OH is away tomorrow til Monday and I'm really going to miss him even though I love having my own time and space!

God I LOVE it when DH goes away. He absolutely does my nut in at times.

I like nothing more than him going to MIL's for a couple of days to help her with DIY.

I asked him the other day "Does MIL need any help at the moment?" Because he has a week off work and I can't STAND him here all day.

I do love him but like time alone.

Love DH but love time on my own too

To be blunt OP you need to have a life outside of him too. When the kids are grown or if he passes before you when you're older, you're going to be screwed really if you don't.

You have the decorator coming. You wouldnt be doing anything anyway . Get the paddling pool out and enjoy it