I’m in a friendship group that meet roughly every two weeks. We go for meals, to the cinema and to the theatre together. It’s quite casual, but we always celebrate each other’s birthdays and have a Christmas party.
I have been through a truly harrowing few years but have kept up with the group. I have never really felt a true part of the group because they are all very stable and secure in their lives and I’ve been to hell and back. Every single year my birthday is forgotten, although we make a big effort for others’; last year I was given some embarassingly awful Christmas presents having gone to a lot of effort for others and seen the effort that they put in for each other. The group also meet each other without me, which I had put down to my having moved out of the village they all live in.
This week has left me very, very hurt. We were suppose to meet for a meal. I got the evening wrong, so didn’t turn up. No one bothered to ask if I was OK, but if others are late there’s a flurry of concerned texts. I had one text, two hours later. There’s a theatre trip someone organised and when I said I’d like to go I was told to contact the box office myself. Earlier this year I put a lot of effort into organising a theatre trip for all of us, at which I was more or less ignored by them.
AIBU. to think that they really don’t want me around?