To not swap?

[Quandary2018]

Exh has recently resumed contact with DD5 after 2 years of going through the family court after domestic violence from him towards me.
Judge has awarded Saturday afternoons as I can guarantee DD will be free- no hobbies etc
Exh has asked me to swap to Sunday’s so he can continue with his hobby on a Saturday afternoon and I don’t want to.

DD has a hobby on a Sunday where the time changes regularly so finding a 4 hour block of time is hard plus handover is supposed to take place at a busy place and all shops shut at 4

He says I’m being purposely difficult, trying to make him miserable, and I’m bitter but I’m not- Sundays just don’t work well for us

AIBU for saying no or should I be being more accommodating? I suppose there’s a chance if I don’t swap that he won’t maintain contact with DD

Stick rigidly to the court order. Don't give way even once. he won't respect you for it, and he'll keep pushing. He'll just have to find another hobby that happens on a Sunday.

No you’ve been to court, the court said Saturday,Saturday it is. If he don’t like it he can fuck off.

I think mostly parents should be flexible with access but in your case totally agree with just NO as the best message X understand your anxiety totally - having clear boundaries will help in the long run and every no gets easier X

Judge has awarded Saturday afternoons

Just say this and do not get drawn into it. it’s his problem not yours

YANBU, stay firm OP, stick to the ruling.

@familycourtq

Why is the hobby always top secret?

He was violent to OP and this is your concern? Really?!