To be shocked to have to ask a cafe to not play explicit music?

[MolyHolyGuacamole]

Brought the kids to the park after nursery today and decided to come to the cafe in the park for dinner. They were playing upbeat music, and wasn’t paying much attention to it. Then I thought I heard an ‘n’ word. Then the song changed, and was filled with ‘n’ words and ‘f’ bombs. So I looked around to see if anyone else was noticing this.

It was fairly quiet in the cafe, one other parent with a child, and a few adults scattered about. If anyone noticed, no one showed it.

But after a few more of the same words, I asked one of the staff to please change the music, which they did.

But, should it need to be said? It’s 5 o’clock in the afternoon in a cafe in the park. I have. I aversion to explicit lyrics, but there’s a time and a place, surely? No idea who controls what music is played, but I’m surprised that the staff were happy to have it playing in the background.

AIBU?

You asked them to change it, they did. Non issue

I have 'no aversion' to explicit lyrics it should say

Maybe they didn't really notice, was it the radio?

It’s likely playing off of one of their iPhone playlists - bey probably just didn’t notice.

No it was a playlist, as the songs were by the same artist. Songs on the radio are edited to exclude the swearing

Most people are not listening to the words of the songs. If they had refused to change it, then you would be reasonably shocked, but as it was, nope.

They changed it. Probably didn't realise,doubt your kids did either.

A non issue.

Same thing happened to me in a big Tesco, they just hadn't noticed and to be fair I hadn't until 3 yo dd asked me what n-word was 😳

It's a funny one, that. I write really sweary books (imagine narrated by Samuel L Jackson and...yeah, that) and I don't actually notice the swearing. A virtual friend - as in FB friend, otherwise she'd know what a potty-mouthed bastard I am IRL - was really horrified by the liberal cussing. I had to read an excerpt out at a literary festival last summer and most of the front row were elderly ladies... I'm sure they can drop the F Bomb with the best but I was mortified.

If the sort of music that has the n word and the f bomb every other line is your thing, you might not even notice after a while...

@MrsRussell I suppose. I swear a lot, but being around children a lot I'm also aware of the language I use in front of them. So maybe I just notice more when I hear the language around them!

I once had to point out to an aerobics teacher the misogynistic nature or the lyrics in the song she was playing, she was mortified!

No it was a playlist, as the songs were by the same artist. Songs on the radio are edited to exclude the swearing

Ahh that explains it then. They probably didn't noticed.

You asked them to change it and they did so it's all good.

At a primary school fete last week music blasting out, my adult DD pointed out the explicit lyrics were being played.

I hadn’t noticed and it appears nobody else did either, I think it was incidental.

It was probably on a playlist, I didn’t take offence and the 5 year olds high on sugar didn’t either.

Language doesn't bother me, it's the war splitting volume music is played at that gets on my nerves.

@bakedbeanzontoast it was also loud as well 😂 luckily when they changed the music they also lowered it. So win win!