Am I being petty over this comment?

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So I told my closest friend who is like a sister to me that we were expecting our 3rd baby in November. The first thing she said was "Are you sure you can financially cope?" I thought what kind of bizarre comment to say to someone or am I just being silly?

I'm confused as to saying that I don't disclose my information means I have any worries?

Because you said you don't disclose your financial worries which means you do have them, or you would have said 'I don't have any financial worries'.

When you said,

I don't mention my financial worries to anyone

It made it sounds like you have financial worries.

Had you said-‘I don’t have any financial worries!’, I would have responded differently.

I guess I worded it wrong then, my apologies. I just meant it in the way that whether I did or not I don't discuss them with anyone. But to correct myself, I don't have any financial worries.

That reminds me of what a so-called friend said when DH told him that we were getting married.

"Are you sure you're doing the right thing?"

Well that's you crossed off the wedding invite list

I guess it depends on if you’ve been moaning about finances or not.
If you’ve been bitching about been hard up she’s quite right. Maybe she’s just worried you’re overstretching, don’t waste too much time thinking about it, just enjoy your pregnancy and new baby.
Sometimes people say things just ‘wrong’, they don’t mean anything by it.

whatkatydidalready - lmao wow!

Weird. If it was a congratulations with a jokey “wow, you’ll be taking out a 2nd mortgage then” kind of comment, fair enough, but to actually say will you cope is just weird.

It is a bizarre reaction. If it is very out of character I would let it go this time.

My DP's sister asked him in front of his (not my) children "are you sure you can afford this baby?" in relation to my pregnancy. Of course their teenage ears pricked up and they became immediately convinced he could NOT afford the baby and that was their college education down the drain. I was furious.

It possibly is projection meaning that your friend has financial worries herself?

If she’s your friend she won’t have meant to be crap. Probably just blurted out without thinking and projecting her own financial worries.
Let it go if she’s a friend. Sure we’ve all said odd things at times.
Congrats btw! 3 is a great number. They’ll run rings round too when they’re older (I’m one of three).

You not too.

I don’t think she meant any harm

Maybe the friend was thinking of the changes to the child tax credits given that you can only get it for two of them?

My MIL beat this comment hands down, first child had just turned 1 when we told her about No 2, she said Oh no, you're like rabbits!