Does your partner change around their friends?

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Mine does... it's like he goes from being lovely to super arrogant.

He has this particular friend where he turns into a 15 year old boy again, gets crazy drunk and is really unpredictable.

Then he complains to me that I'm restricting him off his friends and that I'm controlling for not wanting him to hang out with them. I can't win.

Anyone else got similar situations and how did you work through it? I don't want to restrict him but his friends are awful.

You would be wise to run for the hills.

Lovely, mild mannered, affectionate, art student boy friend turned into total eejit wanker when his arty friends decided to tag onto us one evening. I employed my, inherited from my mother, wanker shrivelling DEATH STARE. This was the first time he'd ever seen it, Not the last though but suffice to say that we're still together 50 years on.
My death stare is still effective and mostly, though rarely, used for recalcitrant DC's and DGC's.

No change from DP just the same super lovely person as always.

His friends are not aweful. He is.
You either accept that or you talk to him about his behaviour changeing when hanging out with this particular person (s)

My dh swears a little bit more among friends i guess. Not too much, but definitely noticeable...

If it was one friend, I'd probably roll my eyes, refuse to have anything to do with him, and let my partner crack on. Sometimes old friends do weird things to people.

If it's all his friends, I'd be ditching him. I wouldn't be prepared to try and start "banning" nights out etc, but neither would I be prepared to feel miserable in all the company he keeps.

I'm sure there's a saying, that you can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. Very few of the lovely people I know, have any arsehole friends. Because they're lovely and surround themselves with good people.

I think everyone has different personae for different situations, I recall at college being told that one's voice changes depending the person one's taking to. If you meet someone out of context they often seem very different, meeting your manager in the supermarket for instance they're no longer in the management role.
A few years ago a couple of friends and I were looking through some old photos and finished up rolling around laughing, my daughter found this quite surprising, Mum not being Mum.

No, mine is the same. I don't think you should pin the blame entirely on the friends, he's a grown up capable of making his own decisions.