Pathetic excuse?

[Diamondeye]

Organised an event for Saturday and friend messaged on Monday to say they weren’t sure because they were going now because they’re tired...

I genuinely would not have been bothered if they’d said no it’s not my thing but thank you for the invite.

Depends - I’d prefer the tiredness excuse over “nah that sounds shit”

What ? They are going to be tired next Saturday ?
Actually I know someone that cheeky

Well clearly they wanted to piss you off. It would have been easy to make up abrealy excuse.

Not much of a friend I would say

Did your friend originally accept?

Yes they did originally accept.

Also I do the same job as them (it’s not difficult - we work 8-4 and then switch off) they live at home and have no children. Why they will be too tired is beyond me...

Could they be pregnant, so they can reasonably expect to still feel tired in 6 days time? Are they out on Friday? Maybe they are just fishing for you to convince them?

They just don't fancy it. Hope you didn't respond and just ignored them.

Could they have a hidden health condition you’re not aware of?

It’s a man so assuming he’s not pregnant

Could they have a hidden health condition you’re not aware of?

I don’t believe so. I mean obviously anyone could but I really don’t believe they do.

If your friend hadn't already accepted, 'tiredness' would be reasonable as a polite excuse to cover a variety of reasons for not wanting to go.

In my view, once you have accepted an invitation, you should honour that unless you genuinely can't for a reason such as illness or family emergency. Using tiredness comes across as 'can't be arsed/something better has come up.'

You could be generous and trust that there is a genuine reason which your friend doesn't want to share - if your friend doesn't have form for late drop-outs, I'd give benefit of the doubt.

Too tired to come up with a decent reason it seems ...