...to get haircut while using emergency childcare?

[Bugabou]

I’m having DC3 next week by ELCS. DC1&2 go to nursery but due to a fire they have had to close this week while emergency repairs are carried out. Massive pain for all parents.

DC1&2 have had to come with me this week for all my final growth scans and errands and misc appointments and it’s been a huge pain in the arse. My friend has offered to have DC1&2 tomorrow but the only appointments I’ve got left tomorrow are a hair appointment and a wax!

WIBU to take her up on her offer and go to my appointments even though they’re not medical? Or should I cancel? And should I tell her?

I’m going to pay her, send DC with food and buy her a thank you gift but I feel it’s a bit more awkward because I won’t be able to offer reciprocal childcare for a while due to new baby and CS recovery.

Honestly if you were my friend and about to have a baby letting you have a little bit of me time before the birth would be absolutely fine. Isn't she going t tell anyway when you collect DC after having your hair done?

Ask her.

Explain that your appointments are non medical and see if she would still be willing to babysit.

Best to be upfront rather than try and 'hide' anything.

Tell her what the appointments are and offer to cancel.

Explain that your appointments are non medical and see if she would still be willing to babysit
This ^^

Tell her because it'll be obvious you've had your hair done. I'd be fine if my friend did this.

Keep your appointments, at least the wax anyway, you dont want wonky pubes growing back through your section scar!

Ok I’ve told her! I feel nervous.

I am also getting a train & 2 buses to a car dealership to pick up our new car so it’s not all grooming.

Maybe by Oct half term I will have my shit together enough to reciprocate?

You've done right to tell her. If you were my friend I'd be more than happy to mind your kids while you had a last minute bit of time for yourself before the new baby arrives.

Just read your bit about the car, I'd absolutely get someone to mind them rather than take two young kids along for that.

Telling her was the right thing. I wouldn't mind at all,be it midwife or hair. In fact I offered myself to have my friend's DD when she booked something in total excitement (great deal) and then realised she had no arranged childcare. She was uhhming and ahhhing about how to ask her in lawd so I told her to just bring her DD over to mine and enjoy.I would be a bit miffed if i was asked for one reason and it turned out to be for something else.
Just say "thank you for offering i have x,y,z to do tomorrow, if you're still willing to have the kids".