To be a bit hurt by ds indifference

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D's (12) arrived home from a three day school trip about 4.pm. Walked in like it was just a normal day. No hug, no conversation!

Hes probably knackered

His 12 I wouldn’t expect much more.

I can see why you would be a bit upset, but is he normally all "huggy" and "kissy"
What sort of reaction would you expect ?

Glad my 12 year old ds still gives hugs and says I love you. Probably wouldn't get a lot out of him about a school trip though.

I think his behaviour shows how secure he feels: he knew that his home was waiting for him to come back to. You're obviously raising him well, OP.

My 13 year old son would be similar! He's probably tired. My son is not a huggy person so that part wouldn't bother me.
My son usually tells me about it after he's been home and relaxed a bit ie in his own time.
Welcome to the world of teens....nearly

Has he had many trips away without you? Is he simply expressing the usuAl greeting out of it being your routine and being unsure of expressing a different greeting?

He hasn't been on a trip for 3years. Just a bit surprised he hasn't chatted about it. Just wants to sit talking to his friends whist playing PS4

My now 18 yo boy didn’t touch me for about five years between about 12 and 17. It was sad for me even though I am also not a touchy person. He now gives me an awkward pat on the shoulder sometimes or an awkward hug.
We have always got on very well he just felt uncomfortable but it changes as they get older but it is sad when they grow up but also lovely.

He's been out of his comfort zone for days, probably had very little down time, and is probably exhausted.

I get that it stings, DS1 did similar last week when he was away his residential trip and then at his dad's. It was a whole week and he just breezed in and went upstairs. It stung, but equally it felt good that he could just come home and flub out because it's his sanctuary.

It's his age.