To be sad I won't have any bridesmaids

[Emptyspacex]

Myself and other half are planning to get married may 2021, only thing is I have no friends to be bridesmaids and it's really getting me down. I've chosen two bridesmaids which are both cousins daughters but no friends of my own. I only have one close friend and she didnt have me as a bridesmaid at her wedding so I'd feel silly asking her.

Also i dont have many friends to invite at all. Two of my closest friends from a few years ago are getting married in August and they didnt invite me to their wedding. My best friend stopped seeing my after I got pregnant so can't invite her either. But DP has loads of friends to invite. I guess I'd just be embarrassed on the day with no friends there whilst dp has a whole group and more.

I didn't have bridesmaid or a hen do. I don't regret either!

I found out that leaving playgroup and walking the same way as another mum led to a great friendship, leading to us nipping into a shop together, walking home, eventually going for lunch etc etc.

You've got time to make friends. I met someone in the summer then attended her wedding in the October. She didn't have any friends, either. I met her as my best friend is her sister in law so I sort of force it. I went on her hen do and dragged her out without the mums/aunties/grandma's so she could let her hair down a bit. We are still friends now.

Good luck. If you're in the south west then get in touch!

I don't have that many friends either really. Not helped by losing one of my best friends recently. But I'm giving peanut and Mush a try too, and really trying to go to arranged meet ups through that. It's not that easy, and isn't helped by the fact that most of the mums near me are army mums who then move away. But I also want DD to have more friends so I know I need to make an effort.

I only have one close friend and she didnt have me as a bridesmaid at her wedding so I'd feel silly asking her

Don't be daft; it doesn't have to be quid pro quo. If she's your friend she would be delighted to be asked.

This ^

What an odd reason to not ask someone to be your bridesmaid

I've been married twice and never had an actual wedding with any of my family there to see me get married. Sometimes shit just happens. 🤷‍♀️

@Emptyspacex I'll plan your hen for you!

Seems like your friends haven't really been there for you, but you know what, when I look at my parents the people they are closest to now are people they met later on in life. They are still in contact with a few day 1s but it's mainly out of courtesy and they don't spend a load of time together. It's hard having small children, takes away your social life.

Yes agree that no bridesmaids is the posh thing these days

Hen do's are so last year, dahling!

Are you in the south east or close to London? If so, I have loads of hats, love weddings and will totally create a back story as your childhood BFF! 😊 I’m being serious though, would love to help!

My SIL recently had 8 adult bridesmaids, 4 flowergirls and 2 page boys. It looked a bit ridiculous. I was supposed to be the 9th adult bridesmaid, but thankfully managed to get out of it by saying I needed to look after my DC who were part of the kid group!

I understand where you are coming from...I think? Does your perfect wedding depend on you having bridesmaids? If so I'm sure mumsnetters can come up with bridesmaids for you. I have a 16 year old that would love to be bridesmaid - especially as her sister dumped her for some flaky friends for her wedding this year.

Friends and family are seldom all they seem to the outside world. Hope you have a fantastic wedding day OP. It will be better than you envisage (I had 3 "friends" as bridesmaids. I haven't seen them since) x

Had we not cancelled due to change in income, was due to get married (second marriage) next April. I'd be 38 so too old to hsve friends as bridesmaids so none here either! I do have kids but they are two boys!

I think we're kindred spirits OP. DP would propose in the near future but I make a joke of having to wait until I actually have some friends har har but I do actually feel a sad little void of loneliness in the mates department.

It's not "I want lots of bridesmaids and big fancy day people flocking around me" it's more I'm upset I don't actually have anyone I could ask. Why don't I have friends what's so bad about me? That big old can of worms 😂

Life is forever changing, you may not have friends now, You've had bad luck with friends but the sound of it.
You'll find your people.
I'm sorry things are not good for you, I'm sure lots of DHTB friends think of you both as friends.
Have a lovely day, enjoy the moment.

Where roughly are you op ? If you're near them I'm sure a few MNetters (me included) would come be your bridesmaid :)

I had no bridesmaids. Because no close /best friends either. But it didnt bother me one bit. I wad marrying the most beautiful man in the world and everyone i cared for was there to witness it . That was more then enough ...Maybe get some doggies from the shelter thay could use a day out/find a forever home.

After all dogs are a mans best friend:)

Just because everyone else does it doesn't me you should feel bad because you dont have any besties. You are marrying your one true love. It is time to celebrate and be super happy.