Hi all! I'm having an induction tomorrow as I'm a few days overdue and baby isn't doing the most movement. I am quite scared to say the least!
Anyway my mum is coming to be my birthing partner but she doesn't drive so my dad will drop her at the hospital and pick her up after. The plan is as soon as baby is out she will go so that dh and I have some time just the three of us. I mention this because I've been told it's unfair on here in the past that my mum will see baby before mil but she is genuinely coming to support me through this as I'm terrified and she is a midwife herself.
Originally we said we wouldn't have visitors for a few days after the birth to allow us to get our daughter home and have some down time. We did say this would be very much play it by ear as I know I might be desperate for everyone to come round although I do think that's unlikely as I'm a very private person.
So here is my Aibu! ILs live about 4 hours away, we see them about once every three months and I have very little contact as there is a huge backstory! Dh speaks to his dad via email about once a fortnight. Although as my due date approached we have both had messages daily asking for signs of their grandchild 🤦🏻♀️. Anyway! Here is the issue! Fil has a business trip he leaves for on Sunday for a week and mil always travels with him (think of it like an unpaid assistant, she deals with his appts etc). Now I am being induced tomorrow they keep saying how if they don't come Saturday they won't get to see the baby for a week.
Aibu to think it doesn't matter if baby is a week old? Also god forbid my induction is not quick and I haven't even had her by Saturday? Or I might end up stuck in hospital over the weekend anyway as I have a health issue that means we will have to have extra checks after the birth. ILs have already caused issues asking if sils new bf can come immediately to see the baby (I have posted under another username so please don't out me if you recognise this!)
I wouldn't mind so much if they could just pop in but because of distance that is not possible. And I am trying to relax today and not stress about tomorrow without all this :-(