To not want to spend 97% of my evenings watching TV

[gonzaleez]

I want to spend quality time with DH, even just an hours chit chat, however he sees no problem with spending every evening in front of the TV because he's 'knackered'. Children are preteen and teen and don't require as much intense parenting but still things have never changed from the vegetating on the sofa.

I've suggested date nights, specific time away together etc but he doesn't like the intense pressure of scheduled time together, plus it doesn't really deal with the day to day loneliness.

I know he's not responsible for my entertainment or happiness, but I obviously love him very much and really enjoy his company when we do spend time together.

He's certainly responsible for not denying you entertainment or happiness.

Having some 'separate' space is good, and of course a little easier once DC get a bit older etc.

But, if he is never interested, that is a problem

I would personally go get a hobby and go out with friends. Leave him vegetating by himself. It could just be that he is naturally an introvert and recharges his batteries by himself and quietly. Dp is like that. I recharge my batteries by being sociable so I go out more and see friends more often. We do go out together as well though, but when you're tired it can be hard to find motivation to go out.

Yanbu! We started doing the Times cryptic crossword together. It's good fun working together to figure it out. More meaningful and you get more out of it.

he doesn't like the intense pressure of scheduled time together

It shouldn't be that hard to hang out with your husband!