14 year old bought AnneSummers bra

[pippitysqueakity]

Will make her ‘two sizes bigger’. With holiday money I gave her for swimming costume etc. Now completely blanking me. Her older sister was with her. I’ve told her she needs to take it back, but they won’t give her money back, will they? I physically cannot get there before we go on holiday on Sat. They both hate me now, and I am at a loss.

Aw don't be too hard on her op, she just wanted bigger boobs. Didn't we all at that age.

Maybe something else is going on.

My 11 year old started putting makeup on and when we chatted about it she said it was to make her prettier. Another girl had called her an ugly bastard, she is far from it.

Is it the brand you object to? Or the boosting factor

It's not my style but it's not much that different from many other high street bars.

Ah, I used to try on my older sister’s wonderbras when I was that age! Definitely would have been buying sexy pants from Ann Summers if I’d lived in or near a city. Don’t be too hard on her, OP.

Does she have a swimsuit for the holiday, was this just an opportunity for a new one?

I think rather than demand she take it back, use it as a conversation starter about why she feels she needs to look "2 sizes bigger" and how she feels about her appearance. Explain what you don't like about it and discuss how bras are, first and foremost, meant to be supportive. Demanding she take it back and getting all angry with her will most likely mean she'll dig her heels in and possibly hide things from you more than open up to you.

Whats the issue? There are a lot of bras around that boost cup size!

Yeah, I imagine they'll refund on a bra if she has her receipt and the tags are still attached.

Would you be happy for her to buy a similar bra elsewhere? Could you compromise?

I have some beautiful Ann summers bras

What is the issues?
Two sizes bigger-she’s a teenaged girl, they’re meant to explore their sexuality.
Anne Summers-teenagers generally have dodgy taste
Misspent money-leave her to deal with the consequences

You can return it OP as long as it's unworn with tags etc
www.annsummers.com/deliveryreturns/

But as others said, talk to your DD about why get a push up bra and how she is feeling.

I'm guessing a push up bra from M&S may have registered a little less - I'll be honest, it would with me. I'm not fond of the idea of my 14 yr old DD going shopping for underwear in Ann Summers.

I was wearing wonderbras at that age. I wouldn’t be too hard on her. She clearly feels a bit insecure.

Let her keep it. I bought a wonderbra at the same age.

I also think the fact DD used the money you gave her for a swimming costume for hols on an (unnecessary?) bra would rankle too. It's not why the money had been given and trust has been broken. I'd be wondering if in future she could be relied upon to buy what was needed rather than wanted using my money. If it was her own money, I may let it go...

By all means you should punish her for not spending money as it was intended. But regarding the bra, let that go. Most girls do these days. Keep up body confidence talks but don’t make her feel awkward about something like this, it just won’t help.

I also had wonderbras at that age.
Don't punish her.

Dont Ann summers do a normal range of bra and knickers? Unless it got peep holes or chains indent see the problem

I dread to think what my 13yo would change me home with if I sent her out with cash to buy holiday clothes.

YABU...you needed to go with her. If the bra came on holiday with my family it would mysteriously get lost while we were there.

She’s 14 OP - this is a totally normal boundary for her to test. I honestly wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.

Overreaction. She hasn't bought crotchless knickers, nipple tassles, strawberry lube, a butt plug and 5 grams of cocaine. She's bought a bra that might boost her self esteem is all.

Were you never 14 OP?

Seriously OP just drop it. She wears bras. She bought a bra. She wants a bra which makes her boobs look bigger. She is 14.

She can have no swimsuit / use an old swimsuit she has as a consequence but honestly. Drop the bra thing.

Yeah, you’re all right. Have had a wee cry and calmed down. She just wanted a pretty bra and it is, even if it’s massively padded. I think it was just the thought of her being in an Anne Summers shop, although I do know they have changed from when I was young. She is so beautiful,but probably will never have big boobs, don’t run in family. We’ve all hugged it out and I have apologised, but am not giving her more money for cossie!

Tbf OP I'd just be quite impressed with her confidence. I'm 34 and it still seems naughty to go into AS. It isn't. Its my lack of confidence.

I’m surprised at everyone here who’d be happy for their 14yr old daughter to be perusing in Ann Summers!

I didnt think you were allowed in an summers under 18? Or maybe 16.

Ann summers do do lovely bras.. they're the only place I buy my pretty bra as I'm a 34G and cant find my bleeding size anywhere that isn't beige and full cup!

This is a great way of making sure your DD can't come to you about sex and similar topics. If you went mad at a bra, how would react about her asking for contraception??
She isn't going to want to find out, she will just keep it between her and if you are lucky, her sister.

I used to buy underwear from Ann Summers at that age. No big deal.