AIBU to do my own thing when DD's friends come round?

[Funkyslippers]

DD (10) has friends round sometimes but I sometimes feel a bit guilty that I don't get more involved. I will play a game with them or help with baking etc if they ask me to but apart from that I just tend to let them get on with it, providing drinks & food when needed. I must admit I use this time to get on with jobs and browse Mumsnet. AIBU?

You would be unreasonable to get involved. They're coming to see your DD, not you!

The last thing they want is you sticking your neb in.

MN on.

Surely the whole point of having friends round at this age is that you get some “you” time?!

I think you've got a good balance from what you've said, there when needed and hands off enough for them to be self sufficient.
It's not your job to provide entertainment, they can do that themselves.

My dd, also 10, would be horrified if I tried to help with baking!

From about 6 onwards, they just get on with whatever they want to do themselves. They ask if they need any help but that would be rare.

Mine are 12, 10 and 7, the only time I would join them, or intervene, if they had friends round would be to feed them or stop a sibling being annoying.

YANBU put your feet up and leave them to it!

Eh? Of course YANBU. At 10yo she hardly wants her mum muscling in on time with her friends, does she? My DD is only 5 and when she has a friend over I still largely leave them up to their own devices (I do investigate if the thuds and giggles from the bedroom suddenly stop).

Oh no, I always leave them to it.

You need to wait until they're at least 18 before you start playing your son's friends, and even then it's pretty icky.

I don't remember my mum or my friends mums ever getting involved when we played at each other's houses.
In the summer parents would sometimes play rounders outdoors with us but that's it.

I just spoke to DD and asked her if she wants me to be more involved and she said "I really don't mind, it's up to you". Bless her. I was hoping she'd say "no way mum!"