Maybe pfb but this just gets me!

[Bobbins1]

I don’t know if I’m being overly precious and if I’m not-how do I say something without it being awkward?! Friends husband sticks his finger in my 5 month olds mouth when we visit. It just makes me want to grab her away! What do I do?!

Tell him not to do it.

What @Lweji said....

Don’t let him near her
If her manages to hold her ,take her back.if he does it again ,say yuk loudly and take her back

just makes me want to grab her away! What do I do?!

Grab her away and say “oi, get your manky finger out of her mouth”

What? Why would anyone shove a finger in someone else's child's mouth? That's awful!

Tell him he's not allowed to hold the baby til he can learn not to poke his fingers in her mouth. Surely nobody can be that ridiculous?

Nothing PFB about it.

It's dirty and unnecessary.

"Please stop doing that. Your fingers have germs on them".

If he says anything other than "Ok, sorry", rinse and repeat.

Holy fuck, that's DISGUSTING! Don't let him do that and bloody tell him no! You're not being pfb. Would he do it to a 3 year old? No, of course he wouldn't because it would be weird and disgusting. Doing it to a helpless baby who can't escape is horrible because of potential germs (did he pick his nose before arriving 🤮) and it's really unfair on the baby thinking he's getting food. Euw, I actually feel sick!

Why on earth wouldn't you tell him to stop it? How many times has he done it? Just say, "Erm, what on earth are you doing, get your fingers out of her mouth!". Didn't you even ask why he was doing it?

I just felt awkward I guess - it was at their house & I didn’t want to overreact as I’m quite an anxious new mom - I will go with my instinct next time, thanks for the advice

Also she was trying to take his hands and eat them, it wasn’t out of the blue - didn’t mean to drip feed that