To not want to buy another wedding dress.

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I'm not a dress wearing type person. So when it came to my wedding dress the thought terrified me
. Told dp that I wouldn't wear a traditional type. One but a nice occasion dress. I ordered 2 sizes but kept the bigger as wanted a bit of room. Also didn't want white.
Was so happy awith it managed to get bridesmaids ones to. Match and even accessories so was made up

However I'm 9 weeks pregnant and have a few weeks yet to go before wedding.
Just tried it on and I look like a Whale..i can't even wear the 'hold me in pants'
It's a maxi style so room for growth but I now feel Bleugh about it

Do I Try and get a new one the same but bigger but potentially making it bigger at the bust and gaping. Or stick with it and know there's room and put up with feeling like a whale.? By the wedding most people will know we're expecting so hopefully understand why I look awful.. ( eg skin bad too)

I don't know what the vote buttons represent but you need a new dress. If it looks awful now, it's only going to get worse in a month. Find a lovely maternity dress, or something flowy and loose around your bump so that you aren't worried about growing out of it.

I didn't mean to enable voting lol.
I just worry to find another dress means changing the shoes bag and jewellery and accessories as they are all a perfect match.
I think it feels worse because I can't get the hold in pants on so feel a bit exposed if that's Makes sense a bit wobbly underneath lol

Can you buy new hold in pants so you still where the dress but maybe just feel a bit more comfortable in it?

Could you get a body-sculpting slip instead of hold-in pants? It might be easier to get on, you’d feel less exposed, and your outline would be smoother.

Weeks 6-12 are the worst for bloating I found, you'll probably find that after 12 weeks you slim down again before bump actually appears - I was massive from bloat, then normal, then bump appeared about 16 weeks.

I've had lovely skin throughout pregnancy so bad skin not a given!

It might be worth trying a few others on to see if you feel better in them or not - but I wouldn't rush to change your dress as you may feel better in it in a few weeks.

At 9 weeks, it will be pretty much all bloating, not baby. With a bit of luck it will all go back to (almost) normal before you actually can see the baby bumb. don’t buy a dress now, your body will change

If you feel like a 'whale' at 9 weeks pregnant then this isn't the right dress for you. I would look for something else.
You can wear shapewear when you're pregnant as well, as long as it isn't too tight. Just google maternity shapewear.

I wouldn’t wear anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Luckily, wedding dress shopping is really easy now. Asos do a maternity wedding line, so you could order a few and return what you don’t like. If you don’t want anything too wedding dressy, then maybe a bridesmaids dress?

How about a fancy jumpsuit? I hate dresses too and wish the jumpsuit was a thing when I got married a few years ago. One with wide legs and a belt would look good if you are worried about the belly. I saw a lovely white one with lace the other day, I I will post it if I should find it again.

I remember early pregnancy feeling horrible, fat, bad skin, hair - you name it. It gets better I promise!

I would stick with the dress, you liked it enough to choose it in the first place.

Be kind to yourself, you will look lovely on your wedding day

I was showing my bump at 11 weeks when I went away with friends so I told them all slightly earlier than I was intending on publicising...

Got home from the weekend. Went to the toilet and emerged 15 minutes later with a considerably flatter abdomen

It's your wedding. You get one go. Go and find something more comfortable that you feel more confident in. It's a ballache now, but it will be worth it on the day.

Agree with PP about the bloating going down after about 11-12 weeks.

Have you spoken to a seamstress to see if they can put in a small panel or let it out subtlety?

To be honest, it’s your wedding dress. If I knew at 9 weeks I didn’t feel great in it, that to me would justify the cost of a reasonably priced new dress. I’d hate to feel uncomfortable or self conscious because of something so avoidable on such a big day.

jojo mamen bebe do hold in knickers for pregos. wore some when i was a bridesmaid. they will smooth you out but wont put too much pressure on belly.

Bloating is horrific around 9 weeks, mines been awful and now I’m at 12 I’m def a bit wider but has gone down a lot since last month.
Sounds like it might be worth finding a back up plan anyway though, bit of a pain but you’ll want to feel comfy on the day so worth investing a bit of time, you could always get one and if you don’t end up wearing it then return it if you’ve only got a few weeks to go

I would try and find a good local seamstress and see what can be done to alter the dress you have

At 9 weeks I always feel dreadfully bloated and need to wear things in a completely different cut. How far along will you be when you actually get married? I’d get a new dress. Try and return the other or re sell.

So you dont want to buy a new dress. But you also dont feel like a whale.
Right. Just buy a new maternity dress from asos or something. Thats what i did. Still looked like a whale though. But a pretty whale and i felt super comfy in it.

Or not buy a new one and feel miserable in your old one if you can't be bothered to buy a new one