Feel bad for being rude to someone

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I feel guilty and bad for being rude to someone who was just doing their job.

For background, I work in an office whereby one of the important meeting rooms is just off the atrium.

I had just finished a 3hour closing of a deal, that was very very stressful and didn’t go to plan. I was tired, stressed out and had enough. So my colleague and I were going to nip out for lunch. We get downstairs about to leave when she realised she’s forgotten something, so needed to go back to her office. I say I’ll wait here for her.

So there I am stood in the atrium near the door. One of the security(external comp) came up and told me that I had to leave. This is because of the risk of noise traveling to the business meeting ongoing in the nearby room. I was stood in complete silence. I said no I didn’t want to go outside because it’s raining. And he said, so what you can wait for your colleague outside. So I snapped back that, no I will wait inside until my colleague returns. At this point he went to harangue someone else.

But I feel bad for being really arsey to him. I know I shouldn’t have taken it out on him for having a shit day. My colleague overheard the very end of the convo as she was coming back and told me I didn’t need to be so arsey.

Apologise next time you see him if you feel bad about it. But you say he “harangued” the next person so do you really feel bad...?

Is it possible you can go and apologise

I run by the rule that if more than one person thinks I was a dick, then I was probably a dick and should apologise.

Don't beat yourself up OP, we all have less than stellar moments. I'd just find him a bit later and apologise. He'll probably appreciate it as I guarantee not many people do actually do that!

I’d have been annoyed too tbh why would he try and insist that you go and stand in the rain while you were waiting for 5 minutes alone in complete silence

Actually I don't think YWBU - you weren't making any noise and it was raining outside, so it was a bit rude and pointless of him to ask you to leave. It would have benefited nobody for you to be standing outside the door getting wet for no reason when you weren't disrupting the meeting in the adjacent room in any way whatsoever by being there. I would have been irritated by that too.

I don’t think I’d be apologising. He’d have had a point if you were having a loud phone conversation, but if you were visibly an employee of the company who was well aware of the noise rules AND standing silently by yourself in reception, he was being a bit of a jobsworth in trying to insist you go and wait outside in the pouring rain.

He was making more noise by telling you to move!

The noise thing i'm thinking is probably a rule just to cover sounds travelling both ways- in case someone standing outside a room hears something very important they shouldn't.

he's probably been told to move people so was just doing his job, least he didn't manhandle you out the door, but yes by sounds of it you could have handled it better had you been having a better day, he's probably used to it in security jobs , but you feel bad enough to post about it so I'd say an apology goes a long way, if/when you see him again approach him say I was very snappy on Tuesday, I'm sorry, I regretted it afterwards.