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Are they rude or am I the crazy stalker neighbour?

15 replies

Idontlikecheesecake · 24/06/2019 22:21

I moved house recently, and I met the neighbours next door but one and we had a little chat. They seemed nice enough.

I ordered a load of books from Amazon the other day and got an email saying they’d delivered my parcel and left it with my neighbour Adam. I was thinking who the hell is Adam?

I was standing on the front deive while my partner was doing some gardening work in the shrubs on the side when the next door but one neighbours drove up and went in their house. DP suggested I could start by asking them. So I went to their front door and knocked but no one answered. I knew they were in, maybe they couldn’t hear me? I knock again, louder. I was knocking on the porch, so maybe the door dividing where i was kno king and where they were sitting meant they couldn’t hear me still.

I hear someone come out their back door, and I shout ‘hello? Is anyone there?’ No answer.

I give up and start to walk off, until i find a debit card on their driveway. I pick it up and shout again that I want to return their debit card, but no answer.

DP said he could hear me grom our back garden (he was transferring bits from the back to the front) so there was no way they wouldn’t have been able to hear me.

A few minutes later, im back on my own drive talking to DP about it, when some friends drive up to next door but one’s house an dpark on their drive. I go up to them and tell them whats happened and give them the card. I go back to my own drive and watch the neighbours who had been ignoring me come out and talk to their friends. They’re all looking at me, and then they all go in. No one has thanked me for returning their card

So are my neighbours rude or do I come acroyas crazy?

And after all that, it turned out I’d forgotten to update the delivery address details on my Amazon account, so Adam is my old neighbour! 🙈

OP posts:
Idontlikecheesecake · 24/06/2019 22:22

Some typos in there. Apologies

OP posts:
Troels · 24/06/2019 22:24

They are rude. Ignore them.
Hope you got the books from your old neighbour Grin

BellatrixLestat · 24/06/2019 22:25

Yeah that seems odd behaviour on their part. It's not uncommon for neighbours to knock on occasionally, especially for deliveries. Have you spoken to any of the other neighbours yet?

My neighbours do this though. Very friendly but I'm constantly taking their deliveries (of which there are many) and they sit there for days until I get fed up and try and return them and they don't answer. I know they're in cause I can hear them inside. Happened a few times. Got fed up in the end and chucked their parcel over the fence (it was clothes so not breakable), and now refuse to take them.

Seeline · 24/06/2019 22:25

Your approach does sound a bit full on. Just knock once and if no-one answers try again later. Don't start hammering on the door or yelling!

People don't have to answer their door if it's not convenient.

Ncbecauseshesprobablyonhere · 24/06/2019 22:25

Maybe he was in the toilet? This happened to me before with a neighbour and I was too mortified to say anything after Blush

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 24/06/2019 22:26

They’re fucking weird is what they are!

PCohle · 24/06/2019 22:29

I think it's a bit rude to hammer on someone's door and shout if they clearly don't want to answer.

Maybe they were busy, and even if they weren't I think it's perfectly fine not to want to answer your door to unexpected callers. I think you way overstepped.

TokenGinger · 24/06/2019 22:29

They could have been showering or doing a quick clean around before their company arrived. I've done that. Got home, known I've got 10 minutes and had a very quick shower before my guests arrive.

Claphands · 24/06/2019 22:29

or DTD

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 24/06/2019 22:32

Loll

I have no idea WIBU but it made me chuckle .

PookieDo · 24/06/2019 22:36

I got to the point of ignoring my neighbours as they ring the doorbell every time they want their ball back and I can’t be in the front and the back at the same time usually they have rung my doorbell after I have already thrown it back over!

akmum18 · 24/06/2019 22:37

Probably thought you were a clingy neighbour who’d knock constantly now you’re introduced Grin no harm done just keep your distance now and don’t force it they were definitely rude to not thank you though

origamiunicorn · 24/06/2019 22:37

Does sound like an odd reaction OP, I'd be really annoyed they didn't thank me at least. I would have probably knocked once, assumed they were in the shower/upstairs etc and then posted it through the letter box.

I'd be interested to see how they are with you when you next see them.

Twotinydictators · 24/06/2019 22:46

Knock once, if no answer try again later. Finding the card gave you, in your mind, a valid reason to keep hammering on the door other than just hunting after your books. You should have just posted it. As PP have already pointed out they could have been doing any number of things (having a row, being right at the end of the garden, sorting things before their guests arrived, DTD, having a cuddle, having an emotional conversation, on the toilet etc. etc.). If people dont answer, it's for a reason. Dont take it personally and dont keep on like a crazy woman; YABU.

Seeline · 25/06/2019 09:04

Also - if you don't know your NDN name, how did you know the debit card was anything to do with them?

Could have been the delivery man's!

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