everyone , just after a bit of advice before I go and speak to my child’s teacher .
DD is in year 4, up to now has enjoyed school , not the brightest - if I had to guess on ability I would say she’s on the 2nd from bottom table in the class for maths and literacy. Had an issue this year with one particular child disrupting her work , taking her pens etc and she put a note in the worry box and she was moved away from him.
Has since moved back and I have been in for a parent morning so I know who she sits with and I’ve seen what they are like.
Tonight she tells me she had her assessment results and she just missed out on achieving standard and feels like she has let her class down. I asked her if she finds school hard . She said she does , she said the children on her table are really disruptive, always getting warnings and sometimes she finds the teacher has moved onto a different part of something and she has no clue what’s going on- she said sometimes she goes all day without learning anything unless it’s in her group for maths and English. She also said she doesn’t feel like she belongs - all the girls are together and she is on this table with 4 boys and 1 Girl who isn’t close by - she basically says she in in the middle of these 3 boys who are always talking over her.
I feel really bad. I have known she has been on this table all year . But I am believer in teachers classroom- teachers rules and I’m not one to go demanding certain things for my child - she’s my third so it’s not a case of pfb. I thought the teacher must think she is their ability so that’s why she is there. But now i am thinking it’s been detrimental to her this year sitting with them. She could have learned so much more had she the opportunity to sit with less distractions. My dd has said despite she has never had a warning or consequence.
I want to go in tomorrow and have a chat - I am not prepared for her to be stuck with these children again next year. She said tonight if there was a door to go through to change schools she would.
Do you think it’s reasonable to go in and say something ? Like I say I don’t normally
Like to get involved. But I feel it’s almost like the teacher thinks well dd isn’t that bright so I will
Stick her on the table with the ones who aren’t worth bothering with and invest my time in the ones that can achieve. Am I being unreasonable? Any advise would be gratefully received - I would
Like to go in with a bit of clarity . Thanks for reading