To always be insecure when DP goes out

[username981]

Just for clarification, I (90% of the time) don't take out my insecurities or distrust on DP. There's been times I've questioned if he'd cheat (tried to do it in a light-hearted way) but otherwise he has no idea that I feel like this.

Every single time he goes out (drinking especially) but even sometimes work or other social events or anything, I constantly worry that he's going to cheat on me. When he's out I sit here and I imagine that he has, and when he comes home and he's all lovable, I really badly worry that he actually has while he's been out and I look really stupid.

How do I get over this?

Have you had bad experiences in the past?

@Ginger1982 never been cheated on!

@username981 I sort of get this. I can (sometimes, not always) get my knickers in a twist over dh going out. My mind can run riot and I imagine him cheating and how devastated I'd be. I get all worked up and angry and upset at the thought of it and find it hard to sleep. He's never given me any reason to feel this way - I think it stems from insecurities I have over the way my parents marriage ended. I don't really beat myself up about it because I don't voice it to dh. I just add to my list of crazy thoughts that I have about all sorts of stuff lol!

Well you need to work out where this insecurity is stemming from before you can work out how to deal with it.

Time to get some help with this if you can't regulate it yourself. This is no way to live your life.
If he's going to cheat on you - and he almost certainly isn't - he could just as easily do it in his lunch hour or lie to you about where he's going at night.
Stop tormenting yourself