both working / intimate time

[RomanyQueen]

If you both work, when do you get time away from the kids to have sex?
When ours were kids it was impossible at night unless of course we were quiet, but who wants to be quiet. At least we had the day when they were at school.
Gone are the days when you just sent kids out to play on a saturday and Sunday school was so the parents could shag.
How do parents manage it these days.

Why can't you do it at night thats when me and my partner do,just close the doors

At night as mine sleep through noise and I'm not overly loud soo...

At night? Send them to bed and tell them mum and dad are going to bed too.

never had a problem at night, just restricted having to be quiet, when do you get the house to yourself to not have to shut doors and be quiet.

We get loads of opportunities as I hate doing it with anyone else in the house (thin walls)!! DS is with his dad every other weekend plus he goes out every Tuesday and Wednesday so these are guaranteed shag times! Any more are just a bonus 😂

We haven't had the house to ourselves in years. It's just one of those things you have to accept has gone.

We don't get the house to ourselves. As another poster said, you need to accept that time is gone for a while

Night time, nap time, very rare child free time... where there’s a will, there’s a way.

This is pleasing to hear.
It got me thinking when a friend said her young adult daughter and teen dd always say goodnight to her when her and dh go to bed.
now of course they could wear ear phones and probably do, but friend reckons her and dh have to arrange time away for real sex.

Never having had this problem, wondered how others managed, who were never childfree or house empty.

The sex isn't any less real. It's just quieter and more considered than it was in the carefree pre child days.

DH and I were discussing yesterday whether our two might be persuaded to go for a walk with grandma and her dog next time my mum visits. Then I remembered that his mum is coming to visit next weekend. She doesn't have a dog to tempt them out to the park, but if it's nice weather, we'll put all the garden tips at the other end of the garden and ask her to look after them while I help DH get the baby stuff up in the loft. It's possible she'll know what I mean but we'll both act as if she thinks it's something to do with DS2's recent demands to move to a big boy bed instead of his cot.

Sorry, by real sex I meant the not holding anything back type that you need to be just the two of you in the house.
I know quiet loving sex is just as good.
Married 26 years .

I think you can do the not holding back type quietly too. I knew friends growing up who regularly overheard their parents going at it and they found it really disturbing and upsetting.

Usually 4/5 in the morning.

Put the radio on low in DS room and hope for the best, if he wakes resettle him, it's worth the risk 😂😂😂 God knows as he gets older and understands, I will take some tips off here lol

Early mornings, set a very early alarm if you have to beat an early rising child.
Failing that, just bedtimes, as long as you’re not a screamer.

The thought of these early mornings is eye watering. Are people really awake enough to dtd this early? I can honestly say we never did this maybe still going from the night before at this time, but not having slept and woke at this time.

I'm really like the lengths that people go to though.

Seriously? That's what the door is for. Unless you are wanting to swing from the chandeliers and scream and shout I'm not sure how sex is impossible...