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To think this is abit white single female?

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Itiswhatitisyeah · 24/06/2019 17:08

Our two DD's go to school together, shes early 20's and I'm early 30's. We have been school gate "friends" for 3 years now. Shes progressively started copying me and it's really ramped up over the past 6 months.

Shes traded her car in for the same car as mine (same colour too), shes had her hair cut into the same style, her partner helped us move into our new home and I heard on the grapevine that shes ordered furniture to match our decor after asking him what our house was like, shes asked her partner to grow a beard because my DH has....... you get the picture.

I was looking for a new job and she tried her hardest to get me to apply to work with her and when I decided to go for another position she was really off with me for weeks. She turns up at my gym classes and everytime I post something on Instagram or Facebook you guarantee that within hours she will have done something similar.

Today shes uploaded a photo of her youngest DD. Her youngest DD has the very long version of my eldest DD'S name. In the post shes shortened it to be the same as my DD'S even though no one knows her youngest by that name. Someone has even commented on the photo saying "who's that?" And shes commented back saying her youngests name and saying shes shortening it! I mentioned it to my co worker today and her face dropped and said I really need to be careful. At first I thought it was because I am older etc but now my co worker has got my thinking - should I be worried?

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TheZeppo · 24/06/2019 19:00

Calm your tits your bunny is safe 😂😂😂

BumbleBeee69 · 24/06/2019 19:06

get some distance between you... fast

BelulahBlanca · 24/06/2019 19:08

You didn’t have to show her up by confronting her about the car.

NameChangeNugget · 24/06/2019 19:14

Have a tattoo done of Dean Gaffney on your forehead and see what happens next.

FriarTuck · 24/06/2019 19:16

Get a large fake tattoo! A really awful one and post it on FB. Then get helpful friends / colleagues to post enthusiastic messages telling you how fab it is. Then sit back and enjoy watching her with her new equally awful but oh so permanent tattoo while you wash yours off Grin
(Please do this!!!)

RavenLG · 24/06/2019 19:30

Just block her from social media and distance yourself from her. Don’t divulge personal information. Not sure why that wasn’t your first route of action? Unless you like the attention?

Alloftit · 24/06/2019 20:34

Ah you sound a bit mean to be honest. Maybe she did see your car and like it, or saw that you got on well with it and so bought one herself, no need to embarrass her about it by ‘confronting’ her. Does it really matter?

bobstersmum · 24/06/2019 20:43

I want someone to copy meeeeee!

whiteroseredrose · 24/06/2019 20:46

I wouldn't worry; I doubt she'll actually try to do you in but I can understand why you're annoyed. I'd just not bother sharing any info with her from now on.

Someone at Uni used to do this to one of my friends. It was bloody irritating. I could understand why she wanted to be like my friend, she was tall slim and beautiful. But with all the will in the world Ms shadow was never going to look like her. She would have been better developing her own style that actually suited her.

Eustasiavye · 24/06/2019 20:46

Id block her on social media. Then maybe spread fake news and see what happens. Love the tattoo idea.

BenWillbondsPants · 24/06/2019 20:55

OP, do you have an unusual hairstyle? Is your home decorated in an unusual fashion?

I don't really see how someone posting a photo of themselves with their kids on facebook is copying you. It's not exactly unusual.

Do you believe that you are someone to aspire to?

Bbang · 24/06/2019 21:02

Sounds like she’s got a bit of a girl crush on you, irritating but not dangerous. Either that or she doesn’t have much in the way of original ideas/style and just finds it easier to copy you.

missyfafa · 24/06/2019 21:11

Please do the tattoo thing. 😁

Redcherries · 24/06/2019 21:13

Be wary, I had similar, she went after my husband in the end. Like pp I thought maybe I was imagining it or finding links that weren’t a thing. She admitted being in love with DH in the end, she was linked more to him than me but we were friends. She actually got married in the phase she was doing it, threw me for 6. She wanted my life. (She’s welcome to my bills)

She might just admire you and look up to you, but I’d still be cautious.

DarkDarkNight · 24/06/2019 21:23

Stop posting in Facebook and Insta so she can’t copy that at least. It would drive me crazy. She’s probably just insecure and unsure of her own style so stop giving her something to copy.

I don’t know why people are saying it’s not weird for her to copy the exact make, model and colour of car. I think that’s very weird. If you have a Black BMW X5 and she gets one that’s really odd. If she gets a dark SUV not so much.

Yes lots of people have similar tastes now: Insta is awash with F&B Hague Blue, Mid-Century Furniture, Grey sofas, Berber cushions, Andy Warhol quote prints, plants everywhere. It’s all getting boring and samey but if she is seeing your home then changing her own that is odd. Same for hair.

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