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How to deal with passive/judgemental comments from DF

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jamoncrumpets · 24/06/2019 14:19

My DF is visiting. It was a last minute thing as he has to deal with an issue to do with my grandmother, and I live closer to her than he does so he's stopping for a few nights.

I'm becoming utterly depressed by what I believe are passive judgemental comments from him. For example:

‘Will he not let you cut his hair at all, then?’ (DS is autistic and has long curly hair)
‘There’s stuff floating on top of this tea’ (film from leaving the bag in)
‘Do you want me to watch the baby so you can hoover out your car?’
‘So you couldn’t find ANYWHERE to buy locally with a fourth bedroom, then?’

I also 'enjoyed' him putting his foot down and imaginary braking every time any car came anywhere near mine.

He's making me utterly miserable and I just need a short snappy thing to say when he starts going down these routes.

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OP posts:
Brefugee · 24/06/2019 16:14

poor you, sounds really stressful.
For the comments - no ideas apart from abruptly changing the subject. Except for tea: if you made it, take it away and pour it down the sink and let him make his own.

For the driving - that makes me really angry, so I start driving over carefully and slowly.

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