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To be feeling a bit disappointed?

29 replies

KiddingEve · 24/06/2019 13:48

Previous relationship I was with someone who expected to be in contact by text for a lot of the day so I’m not really sure what a ‘normal’ amount of contact in a relationship is. Does this sound ok or am I expecting too much/putting up with too little?

Boyfriend is away visiting his day for a week (in the UK so no problem with phone signal/WiFi etc), it was my birthday yesterday, he sent me a text in the morning saying happy birthday and we exchanged a couple more texts just about what we were doing that day. I didn’t hear anything else from him the rest of the day.

I get that he’s away with his family and I wouldn’t expect him to be texting me all day but I was a bit disappointed he didn’t check in again in the evening even to just say hope you had a nice day. It just feels like he’s done the bare minimum on my birthday (didn’t get a card/gift from him before he went away) and I would have liked a little more thought or should I not have expected that since he’s away and we haven’t spent the day together?

OP posts:
ShatnersWig · 24/06/2019 13:49

How long have you been together?

whothedaddy · 24/06/2019 13:49

How long have you been dating?

Pinkmouse6 · 24/06/2019 13:50

How long have you been together?

SmellbowSmellbow123 · 24/06/2019 13:53

Has anyone asked how long you’ve been together?!

ChangesAt30 · 24/06/2019 13:53

Ahem...

Have you been together long? Grin

Zakidoodles23 · 24/06/2019 13:55

Are you going to celebrate your birthday when he gets back? I try to discuss things like this with my dh in advance so expectations are managed. Not everyone puts the same importance on birthdays. I would personally let it go and celebrate when he is back

PapayaCoconut · 24/06/2019 13:56

Depends if it's s new relationship...

ShatnersWig · 24/06/2019 13:56

Zakidoddles just HAD to ruin things

IsabellaLinton · 24/06/2019 13:58

He wished you a happy birthday Confused

dancemom · 24/06/2019 13:59

Not sure about other posters opinions but I think it depends on how long you have been together 🤔

SleepingStandingUp · 24/06/2019 14:05

Well op it all depends how long you've been together, i can't beleive no one else thinks this matters!

IsabellaLinton · 24/06/2019 14:07

Does this sound ok or am I expecting too much/putting up with too little?

No one else can answer this for you.

PrincessMaryaBolkonskaya · 24/06/2019 14:09

....... how long have you been together though?

PuppyMonkey · 24/06/2019 14:09

I'm only here to find out how long they've been together now....

Oysterbabe · 24/06/2019 14:11

I don't think anyone has asked yet, how long have you been together?

agirlhasnonameX · 24/06/2019 14:12

Not sure if it's been addressed but how long have you been together OP?

agirlhasnonameX · 24/06/2019 14:12

X post @Oysterbabe, feel silly for asking the same question now

newmomof1 · 24/06/2019 14:15

I was just wondering how long you've been together?

Charley50 · 24/06/2019 14:17

My answer will depend on how long you've been together? Grin

EnglishRose13 · 24/06/2019 14:18

Haven't RTFT so not sure if this has been asked yet but how long have you been together?

NeverHadANickname · 24/06/2019 14:22

Everyone is bound to ask so I'll get in there first, how long have you been together?

KiddingEve · 24/06/2019 14:29

Haha sorry missed out an important bit of information Wink we’ve been together about 4 months.

I don’t think he’s got anything planned for when he’s back, he’s not back until the middle of next week.

OP posts:
ShatnersWig · 24/06/2019 14:33

Four months for me would still be fairly early days, to be honest. You had several texts during the day, it's not like you didn't hear from him at all.

I get that he’s away with his family and I wouldn’t expect him to be texting me all day

But you did expect him to text you at night even thought you had exchanged texts earlier in the day?

Babochan88 · 24/06/2019 14:34

4 months? yeah, he could have put in a bit more effort! Hope you had a great day though!

VaggieMight · 24/06/2019 14:42

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