To get another dog ? My dog has died

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My beautiful dog died 2 days ago he was 13 and was my life.
We rescued him at only 4 weeks old.
He was abandoned in a carrier bag and we spent the first few weeks feeding him milk with a dropper.
I loved him with all my heart.
I've never stopped crying.
I have hundreds of pics and videos on my phone of him opening his birthday presents and with his Christmas hat on.
I know people might think I'm crazy but I loved him so much.
I'm 30 and I can't imagine my life without that love again.
I want to get another dog in 4-5 months when hopefully I've healed a bit.
Not to replace him because I couldn't but I know I can give another dog a nice life.
I would get a girl dog I think as I think a boy would be too hard as my dog was a boy.
Am I betraying my dog if I got another in 4-5 months.
I've got his ashes coming home in a teddy bear,and il keep him close to me for the rest of my life now.
I've also kept a lock of fur and I'm going to put it in a frame with his picture.
If I got another dog would I be a bad person?

I lost my dog early last year after 12 years together.
We adopted another in July, it’s not the same but it’s still lovely.
Still feel really numb over losing him and it’s going to take a long time to process it and heal. I accept that and just go with it Day to day.
I don’t think you’d be a bad person to get another one but wait a little while, maybe a few months? Rehoming a rescue will be a lovely tribute. I’m sorry for your loss

They've brought his ashes back for us today.
I'm so pleased he is back home.
He can stay with us forever now

I too got great comfort from having her ashes back. I felt she was home and not alone and pineing for me.
I have a small amount of her ashes in a necklace. It makes me happy that she comes to the park, which she loved but couldn't manage to do in the last year or so.

Crying reading this. So sorry for your loss op. Definitely get another dog you sound like you are a lovely person with a lot to give another dog. Good luck.

Sorry to hear about your dog.

Our rescue cat Wispa died and we'd adopted 2 more (Inti & Yassi) about 6 weeks later. The lady who ran the charity had said she knew it was early but knew these were perfect for us to had to ask as they were being made homeless that day.

I was (and still am) so very very upset about Wispa but I will always see one animal dying as a space to help another. Me not adopting Inti and Yassi would not make any difference to Wispa but it's changed the lifes of Inti and Yassi.

Losing animals is horrendous but for me it would never stop me helping others.

So sorry about your dog. I have had dogs all my adult life and can assure you that while you never forget your much loved pet, it does get easier.
And yes, get another dog. Even if you get the same type, it will be a different dog, you will be able to love them for themselves, not as a replica of ddog 1.
Give yourself some time then start looking.

My dad said years after our 17 year old dog died that he moarned her more then his own brother. I am not joking. This is what he said. He also said she lived at home with my parents longer then me and my sister. He still talks to her picture on the wall! That was the huge effect of having a wondeful dog in a family. Op, have another dog one day. You clearly have a lot of love to give. So sorry for your loss x

Oh I’m so sorry. We lost our baby a month ago and I spent an hour last night, looking at photos and sobbing. It’s so incredibly painful. His presence is missed and our home feels different. We have discussed another dog but I think it’s important to grieve the dog who has been lost.

When the time is right, you’ll know and give another pup a very happy life.

Thinking of you. I am in a similar boat and I am so sad.

Of course you would not be a bad person. Please take in another dog. Look on the shelter website and one will steal your heart.

Sweetheart, do it. Just be prepared to feel weirdly resentful of the new one. We waited all of two weeks (I'm rolling my eyes at myself) to get two more of the same breed. I know we won't hang about when the current two go, I can't bear an empty house. They make the evenings bearable when my DH is at work.

I got another horse when mine died and I really didn't like him for the first couple of months and thought I'd made a hug error. Now, obviously, I adore him, but I felt the same weird resentment with the new puppies.

I’m sorry

We lost our dog the end of December. He was my boy and I loved the bones of him and miss him dreadfully

At first i was adamant that I didn’t want another dog, ever, but the house just didn’t feel right so we’ve recently adopted a puppy

The time didn’t feel right for a while, then all of a sudden it did

Definitely get a new dog when you are ready. We got one about 2 months after our old one died. It's a huge loss. Dogs are wonderful companions. We got our new dog a year ago in preparation for when our old boy dies as we can't bear the thought of an empty house. They don't replace each other, they just soak up the love

After losing our Springer Spaniel, we said we'd wait to get another one; but the house was so quiet we couldn't stand it. Are you thinking of a rescue dog? Puppies can always find homes, but rescue dogs need them more.

I'm so sorry OP and all of you who have lost their beloved DDogs. Our Jack Russell is 14.5 now and I can't help thinking he won't be with us for that much longer. I know I will be devastated and would want to rush out and give a home to a rescue.. DP wants a break before we get another one though

So sorry for your loss OP .

Of course you're not a bad person if you get another dog - otherwise everybody would only ever have one! When we lost our first dog we got another 2 weeks later - everyone grieves differently, some people don't want one straight away, some never want another, but we couldn't be without one in the home.

A few years ago we lost 2 close together from cancer, and got puppies after their diagnoses before they'd even gone. They're not 'replacements' but they do help heal the pain and are company for each other.

You need to do what you feel is best for you and open your heart to another dog when you feel the time is right, whether that's next week or next year.

You never replace a dog, you have a different dynamic and relationship with another one. Grieve for as long as it takes but personally (and I have done in the past) I would start too look for a dog as soon as you can. It helps the grieving process, I really miss not having a dog around when I am without them, they bring something very special into our lives.