To have ignored this text?

[JudgeRulesNutterButter]

MIL texted me this morning “Is now a good time to ring?”
We were out at the time and I didn’t see it till 45min later. At which point I told DH and he said “ok I’ll ring her” so I didn’t bother texting, but DH then got caught up doing other things and didn’t ring. We then went to a party and both forgot, he’s returning her call now.

I’m feeling embarrassed that I didn’t reply at all and defensively pissed off that it’s apparently wifework to give the OK to ring us. Just ring? Or text your son rather than your DIL? (He probably wouldn’t reply either.)

She’s lovely and let’s face it a text is little effort. But at the same time, THIS IS NOT MY JOB.

AIBU?

he’s returning her call now - should say ringing her now - obviously he’s not returning her call, she never actually rang! 🤦‍♀️

Maybe she wanted to talk to you?

YABU, she was just being nice. Your poor MIL!

Aw poor MIL (unless massive drip feed) but it's just one of those things.

I think texting asking if now is a good time to ring is a good idea but must be done with the expectation that you might not get a reply. In which case it was safe to assume that it wasn't. So .... i wouldn't be embarrassed about not answering.

Secondly she might have wanted to talk to you only. Or, if not, thought you might be the one out of the two of you who would appreciate a head's up, more than her son.

Tbh it didn’t enter my head that she would specifically want to talk to me.
Okay IWBU... ugh.

No harm done. You told him she’d messaged and he’s calling her. Everyone’s busy.

Talking to parents or indeed PILs isn't a job is it...?

My mil texts me and rings me before dh. I always assume because answer her questions, chat a good bit to her rather than dh's usual "yeah everything fine" answer to everything.

My God, how dare she show some consideration, by checking that it's a good time to call
The things some people get worked up about on here ...

I have 2 sons and dread being a MIL after what I read on here. Can't do right for doing wrong.