So.. my partner and I are in the process of moving to a new area. We currently live in a small house that we are growing out of, we've accepted an offer and we are looking at a wreck of a house to do up. this house is closer to my parents and further away from my MIL and SIL. We have tried to stay as equidistant (sp?) as possible but we live in London so theres only some areas we can afford. My parents and my MIL have both given us money to help over time and with our own savings we were able to buy. My MIL released equity from her home for my SIL to buy a property and gave some to us and my BIL at the same time. We didn't ask for it and my MIL stated that it would be ours in the will anyway. That's when we started to think we might move again, sooner rather than later.
HOWEVER I can sense this, we've given you money so you can't move away vibe as both MIL and SIL are fairly..... unhinged?! They react unreasonably to minor things and my partner had a difficult childhood and still struggles to maintain a civil relationship with them. He has/is having therapy to undo esteem issues that they definitely compound. They can be lovely and have a great relationship with my child which I want to continue. I also have a great relationship with them both but at the same time, see how dysfunctional it all is.
My family don't care where we move and just want us to be happy.
I suppose i'm just asking, what would you do/how would you behave going forward? I know it's going to possibly blow at some point and i'll be accused of literally taking the money and running! My partner wants to move further from them as he feels their controlling vibes and relationship needs some considered space. We will still be only an hour on the tube too! And we have lived closer to them for the past 3 years, while living two hours (door to door) from my family.
Help!