To consider ghosting a "friend"

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A new woman started work (I had just handed in my notice and had a month till leaving) and she immediately took to me. I was polite, chatty, asked her about herself but never really gelled with her. She was quite rude and snappy at times and made comments that I can only describe as "a joke with a jag." She was also really bitchy about colleagues, I stuck up for them or just ignored her comments.

She asked for my number saying it was in case she got lost while on a work trip she had as I'd been several times. Now I've left and she has messaged me asking me to meet up with her for dinner/drinks. I just really dont like her and if i was honest i would tell her shes not my kind of person but in this case I'm thinking its nicer to just not reply than tell her I think shes horrible, what you all think? I feel like a bitch either way!!! :(

Just don’t reply, no point pretending.

Usually I'd say be honest but in this case I think it's kinder to just not reply.

If it was me, I'd take the hint.

Just don't reply. There is no obligation upon you to do so. It's one of the best parts of leaving a job, is leaving the bitches and bastards behind you. . .

Just don’t reply. You do not owe her anything after how she treated you.

Being honest and telling her you do not like her might come back biting you in the arse even some day as you might meet her again in the future if you are in the same field of work. In such case, a text from maybe months/ years ago might cause a lot of akwardness whilst simply ignoring might have been long forgotten or can be simply excused by : ‘ was so busy back then, had intention to reply but forgot, sorry about that’.

I would ignore. She’s not a friend.
I purposely lost touch w a work colleague when she left. She tried to keep in touch but I left it as I didn’t want to ever see her again!!!

If you didn't want to just ignore, could you perhaps say that things are crazy busy right now so difficult to fix a date but you'll be in touch, and then don't?

The way she talks about everyone else will be the same way she talks about you when you aren't around. These sorts latch on to nice people and suck them dry. If you aren't going to be in that workplace much longer then I would say, just ignore. Don't worry about feeling like a bitch because you will feel a million time worse somewhere down the line if you let her into your life.

Ignore, she's not a friend. I wouldn't send a text telling her you don't like her, as there is just no point.