DP not telling ANYONE about pregnancy

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I'm almost 14 weeks. We've known for 10 weeks. It was a big surprise to us. He's been really happy and excited about it.

I don't want to do any big public announcements until 20+ weeks (I don't think), but even though it was a surprise to us, I've still told quite a few people out of pure excitement! I told DM in the first few days after we found out, and 3 close friends and now another 2 after we'd had the scan.

But DP hasn't told anyone. It didn't bother me at first, it's his business to tell his family/close friends and I left him to it. But now it's been over a week since we had our scan and there just doesn't seem any will to tell anyone, he hasn't told a single person and him and his friends and him and his family are close.

AIBU to be slightly bothered by this now? How long is he planning on waiting? Until I'm big and then he can just casually drop it in or what??
I guess I feel like by not even sharing it with the closest people to him that it's less of a big deal for him or he's less excited or something?

I think you need to ask him why he hasn't told anyone.

Is he worried about tempting fate perhaps?

How do you know he hadn’t told anyone?

@Jemima232 I'm worried that he's slightly embarrassed/afraid of judgement that it's happened quite soon in the relationship (unconventional for his family/friends).

I ask him when he's planning on telling them and he just says 'definitely need to soon!' (but that's been being said for a month?)

I wouldn’t jump to “he’s less excited”. I’d guess more worried/more private.

DH didn't want to tell anyone I was pregnant until 27wks (good chance of survival if born early) I think it comes down to superstition, same as not bringing any baby items into the house etc.
I wouldn't be worried, you tell who you want and don't let it hinder your happiness

I’d ask why he hasn’t told anyone. He could just be scared and want to wait until your further along or had the next scan?

Maybe he's weird, like me. I don't have kids yet but if/when I get pregnant I plan to tell no one, for as long as possible. We live abroad so I could potentially just turn up for a visit with a baby.

I appreciate I'm not normal, but I'm looking forward to the challenge

Have you asked him? He might be nervous or embarrassed. I still feel like a child when I have to tell the grown ups big news (I'm in my thirties...). Is he close to his lot? Will they all be full of unwanted advice or disapproval?

Congratulations!

How soon in your relationship is it? Do you know his family and friends well? If it were me then I'd just ask him why he hasn't told anybody yet.

How soon into the relationship was it? If we’re talking a few weeks I can understand his reluctance. He knows his family and friends better than you do, maybe he is certain they will judge so he’s putting it off.

You must be starting to look pregnant by now.

Is he going to hide you away from his relatives and friends until after the baby's born?

@OneThreadOnly0101 - I thought that would be me. I lasted a whole 2.5 days before telling my mum on the phone at 5 weeks, then told my dad a week later when he came up to see me for dinner. DH tried to do it properly waiting until the 12 week scan and nearly made it, then told his parents at 10.5 weeks.

@OneThreadOnly0101

So you just plan to rock up with a baby which nobody knew about?